Good morning!!!!

[Thomas]

Dave 1949.
Yeah old man winter toying w/my emotions...Nice January morning!...guess we go thru it each year.

 

[toppop52]

Cloudy and cool, going to Front Royal for my oldest grandson's 4th birthday party. I love to see them but could do without the 400 mile round trip and 50 people there.

David, depression is a terrible thing, had a sister in law that was bi-polar. But....Do not let yourself be the bad guy. You are not responsible for your wife's happiness, entertainment or joy in her heart, beyond what a husband and father does. She has to love you, not your income.:thumbsup:

 

[MossflowerWoods]

... She has to love you, not your income.:thumbsup:

Randy,

Wait, that is not my point. I am not intending to say bad things about my wife. Not true things either.

No my point is the precipitating event for this crisis was my devastating loss of income and my over-reactions to it (and some of hers).

I'm not taking all of the blame on myslef, but I can only control me. I can only change me.

Love ya bro. Have fun at party, you will be within 30-40 min max of my place I think...

Be well,
David

 

[daugen]

Cloudy and cool, going to Front Royal for my oldest grandson's 4th birthday party. I love to see them but could do without the 400 mile round trip and 50 people there.

David, depression is a terrible thing, had a sister in law that was bi-polar. But....Do not let yourself be the bad guy. You are not responsible for your wife's happiness, entertainment or joy in her heart, beyond what a husband and father does. She has to love you, not your income.:thumbsup:

Route 50 and 66, not known for scenic wonders I'm afraid. Maybe once you get closer to Front Royal and get away from
the DC area.

My wife has suffered with depression for a long time. I see the same thing in her mother, and her brother.
So I don't think I'm the cause of it...

Luckily I was a psych minor in college and really studied this. So I know what she is going through, what will cheer her up, and
to have patience to just let her world come back on its axis. And be happy again. Which she wants to be, but the psychic weight of
depression is a real drag, a serious weight to bear.

I'm no expert on marriage, that's for sure. On my third and final marriage. What I do know is one has to be happy at least part of the time.
If you are unhappy all the time, you have to change. Either with help from a professional counselor or leaving your current home environment for one better suited to you. I never had kids, other than a second wife with three of them, so I have learned that while kids are wonderful, they weren't for me. And I really do understand why kids are the center of the universe to most folk.

My wife's and my love for each other has done nothing but grow. We both know this is not a drill. She has terminal cancer so I value every day I have with her. So each and every morning we say Good Morning to each other and try to make the best of the day, and have some fun somewhere. Not easy to do while in physical or emotional pain, but luckily I have a good sense of humor so I'm usually able to make her laugh, or perhaps even a chuckle. Often that's all that's needed.

one day at a time. Kiss your wife and kids and make each day an adventure.
As that movie star just said, we are all terminal. What we do with each day is what defines us.

 

[dave1949]

Dave 1949.
Yeah old man winter toying w/my emotions...Nice January morning!...guess we go thru it each year.

I'm thinking Jack Frost mugged the Easter Bunny :laughing:

 

[toppop52]

David, I could have worded it better my friend. I just want to be sure you step out and look at it from the other side sometimes. Self blame is dangerous.

Daugen I'm truly sorry for your wife's situation. God bless.

 

[txdon]

Good Morning. 61˚ and cloudy with a southerly breeze, it will be getting up to 81 this afternoon.

Ron glad you mother is improving. I don't think I have ever started my tractor on a below 50˚ day. But I can imagine having fun pushing snow when being bundled up - in a heated cab.

Roy, 9 months after I got out of the hospital from my HA they called wanting the $500 deductible, I told them I mailed it 8 months ago and gave them my check #. At 12 months the same call and I sent them a canceled copy of the check from the bank that they deposited, 13 months later same call - then the fun started - I called them EVERY DAY for two weeks making sure their records reflected the correct information and that they mail me proof. Now I need to check my credit rating - thanks for the heads-up.

David hope it works out, the family stays intact and everyone is happy 90% of the time. I'm an advocate against medication, but some mental conditions require it, to be on the same playing field as the rest of the world. She probably needs you more now than ever. I know you will give it your best shot.

"...we are all terminal. What we do with each day is what defines us." So true Daugen, and a good way to put everything in perspective.

 

[deerseeker001]

looks like a dusting over nite and 17 degrees this morning with more snow today.it will get up to 29 today.

 

[Mousefield]

Cloudy with showers today, high of 10C/50F.
Going over to the neighbours this afternoon and give her a hand cleaning out a utility trailer full of stuff.

 

[chad22]

It's 42F right now heading up to 56F today. It got near 90 Yesterday. I sure enjoyed that warm weather. Now they're even forecasting snow and a high of 37F for Friday. Thought I might be done with burning wood for the winter, but looks like I might have one more day of wood burning.

I hope they're wrong on Friday's forecast. Especially about the snow. I don't want anymore of it. lol

Thanks for all the good wishes, guys...but it didn't work out. Sucks, but I must admit I did learn a few lessons here.
The biggest drag, outside of the disappointment of losing the house, is spending $875 on a home inspection on a home I can't buy...and I'm SOL on that.
Now, the KC bank had a title search done by my lawyer (lawyers do the title seaches in VT). It was ordered by the bank on 04 March. Just called the bank...told 'em they'd best pay that lawyer.

Sorry it didn't work out for you Roy.

Chad