txdon . I am sure you have been giving your wife lots of TLC after the accident. I think it's a good sign when she no longer wants you to do everything and wants to find ways of doing them for herself.
My granddad lost his hand and arm in WW1. As a child I delighted in trying to do everything with one hand, just like him, though I could never manage to tie my shoe laces like he could. The only concession to this handicap that I can remember him using regularly, was for eating food. It is sometimes hard to cut food with a knife when you can't hold it in place with a fork at the same time. He used a cheeseboard style knife, with a sharp curved blade, so the cutting action was always downwards against his plate while he rolled the cutting edge on top.