Now I'm ticked off.

[fidowanttobe]

I have been known to spend my successful daughters money occasionally when I know better. She does get an advanced warning before I give her the bill.
In this circumstance, I would call my preferred electrician and have it done.

 

[RSKY]

I have 4 daughters from 28 to 19. The ones with a man feller its on the man feller to figure it out.
You daughter has a husband. Let him be the man of the house and force your daughter to depend on him.

About three years ago when my youngest was 36 and pregnant with her third child she had a blowout flat tire. Of course she called her husband first, then asked him if she could call her "daddy". He thought it was funny and said of course. So I got the call and was there in ten/fifteen minutes. It doesn't matter how old they get, how many kids they have, if there is trouble they know that the one person who will never not help is their "daddy"! Even if their husband would wade thru burning gasoline and fight a tiger to save them their dad would be right behind him.

The local volunteer fire department was operating at a car crash near where she had the blowout which was probably caused by debris in the road from the crash. When they saw the heavily pregnant woman and two kids with a flat they jumped in and started changing the tire before her husband got there. Then two or three of them kinda set up a perimeter around her vehicle and guarded it until we all arrived. They all probably went home and told their wives and families how they had saved the pregnant woman.

RSKY

 

[ponytug]

About three years ago when my youngest was 36 and pregnant with her third child she had a blowout flat tire. Of course she called her husband first, then asked him if she could call her "daddy". He thought it was funny and said of course. So I got the call and was there in ten/fifteen minutes. It doesn't matter how old they get, how many kids they have, if there is trouble they know that the one person who will never not help is their "daddy"! Even if their husband would wade thru burning gasoline and fight a tiger to save them their dad would be right behind him.

The local volunteer fire department was operating at a car crash near where she had the blowout which was probably caused by debris in the road from the crash. When they saw the heavily pregnant woman and two kids with a flat they jumped in and started changing the tire before her husband got there. Then two or three of them kinda set up a perimeter around her vehicle and guarded it until we all arrived. They all probably went home and told their wives and families how they had saved the pregnant woman.

RSKY

And they probably did!

There are lots of roadside deaths due to inattentive drivers. Having a safety perimeter is wonderful, as is an upstream vehicle. If at all possible, I would rather drive to an exit or parking lot to get completely out of traffic.

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(And yes, this is not an unbiased source as are trying to sell improvements to the basic hazard lights on vehicles.)

All the best,

Peter

 

[stephenh]

I am retired from flight instructing, and one day when I was outside the school having some lunch on a picnic table, killiing time til my next flight, a student pilot I'd never met came over and sat down. He started venting about how that day would be his last lesson for a while due to short funds. Then he explained that his 15 yr-old daughter had a birthday coming up and was demanding a car, and it had to be a new one. Did not yet have her license or anything. So, his flying funds were going to be going towards buying daughter a new car. I was gentler than I sometimes am but pointed out that he was a grown up and was bowing down to a demanding kid. Then I shut up. He just stared off into the distance. None of my business, of course, but I've never forgotten him.

(And I should get credit here for not asking why, in any conceivable universe, would someone want to be invited to go to Disney, of all places. See how polite I can be?)

 

[Sigarms]

Yep, that is me. I have told them repeatedly to have a switch installed so a generator could be hooked up. When we got our whole house generator I gave them my electric start 10K genset. But did they listen. No they did not. So it will be me hauling gas and stringing extension cords all over the place.

The impression I get was that this trip was unexpected on your end that was pre planned by your daughter.

You told your daughter and her husband what they should have planned for, they did not listen to you, and now you're the one taking care of their lack of planning.

It sounds as if your daughter and her husband are financially sound and not strapped for cash.

There is one saying that my father taught me that I never have forgotten... "piss poor planning on your end does not constitute an emergency on my end".

What I find head scratching is that that it seems like your daughter kind of expected you to do this. This no less right after your were taking care of her daughter while she was away on a business trip and she's over at your house at 4AM to pick her up?

You say "you are going to talk about this" (apparently when they get home). Given that you bought a car for your grand daughter and then she isn't to tell anyone about this and then have another grand daughter ask you to plan and pay for a family vacation for 11 people, I'm think whatever talk you have to your grown daughter is going in one ear and out the other (that said, if the grand daughter is the same person on the car and vacation, with all due respect, she's spoiled IMO).

Apologies for being critical on my end. Of course there is no right way to raise kids, and kids are like farts, they aren't as bad when they're your own. Sounds like you have done a remarkable job in raising your children being productive members in our society, so you must be doing something right.

My dad grew up poor with his parents off the boat working in the coal mines before he was born. He (dad) saved and taught me that nothing is promised to anyone. That said, after my mom died and he (dad) was by himself, he was always wanting to spend money on me and my wife, which I generally always refused because I told him he taught me to not to rely on him (added that I had my own career and was making more money than he ever did when he worked, and my wife actually makes more money per salary than I do LOL).

This is where I guess we differ as I viewed it as my job when I got older that it was now my responsibility to take care of my dad since he took care of me for so long and for myself not to be a burden on him in his older age.

Reality is I'm more upset at your daughters apparent expectations of you and what she assumes of you because you're her father, and that is not my right on my end.