4) I found the lift capacity at height X, and cheated it just a tad with the curl function.
Bear in mind that the "capacity" and lift ability are not always the same for a loader (bucket or forks). The geometry of the various angles of loader arms, bucket/forks position, and hydraulic cylinders means that there will be different lift ability based upon all of these angles, where the "capacity" will be the most conservative of the lift ability. This is not a suggestion that the capacity should ever be exceeded, and a well set up system will bypass hydraulic pressure, before capacity is exceeded (so the lift seems to stall). So you may feel that you have a little more power to load or lift a little with the loader/bucket/forks in certain positions, but the lift cannot be continued (at all, or safely). When you're operating in this range, you're pushing your luck - particularly when fork lifting something out of a truck and down to the ground. At least loading up can warn you and you can return the load to the ground.
Increasing engine RPMs increases speed of FEL movement in feet-per-second but does not increase lift capacity in pounds.
Correct. Increasing engine speed will increase hydraulic pump speed, and thus hydraulic speed. The maximum hydraulic pressure is limited by pump efficiency and hydraulic relief setting. If you are driving at any speed, particularly in high range, that is consuming some engine power, and may reduce hydraulic lift ability. If you are driving at anything other than a slow approach speed while operating hydraulics to their lift capacity, you're pushing your luck - drive or lift, avoid doing both at once!
I built a three point hydraulic log splitter for my JD tractor decades back. I plumbed in a log splitter valve to the tractor to power it. (The first valve had a kick out return, which made the tractor loader unsafe - separate story). The splitter worked, but not great. I used it - fine.... The I bought a dump trailer from the JD dealer for the tractor, with the agreement that it would "dump anything!". No, it wouldn't lift and dump a load. I investigated... There was an un marked pressure relief bypass in the splitter valve. I put a hydraulic pressure gauge on the valve output ('should have done that at installation!) and reset the relief pressure to that of the tractor system (it had been less than half). Well, the dump trailer became a near catapult, and the splitter would split the big maple after all!
If in doubt, ask your dealer to check the hydraulic system pressure and relief setting, and give you a little more review of how the hydraulic attachments work...