Honesty

[Cat385B]

I don't like funerals; but some are obligatory. I never remember them any way, same with weddings.

Me too, but I am foggy on the weddings for a different reason.

 

[2LaneCruzer]

Me too, but I am foggy on the weddings for a different reason.

Gotcha. I paid for a couple of doozies!

 

[Fuddy1952]

I don't understand putting flowers on the grave either.
I remember my grandmother when she was 90 said "I don't want flowers at my funeral or putting flowers on my grave. I'd rather someone send me a bouquet while I'm alive and can enjoy them".
So the next day I called a florist, she put the bouquet on a table right outside her room where everyone at the assisted living could enjoy them.

 

[MossRoad]

We don't go to funerals to see the dead person. We go to see the living people. Friends and relatives. As I mentioned before, funerals are for the living. We cope in a group. When my parents passed away, it was nice to see many of their old friends, relatives and coworkers.

I also like being a pallbearer for my friends and relatives. It makes me feel like I'm doing something to help, and I also feel it's my duty to carry my family members to their final resting place if I'm able. Take care of things right up to the end. All part of the process.

When I was in Catholic grade school, a friend of mine and I were frequently called out of class to be alter boys for funerals. Sometimes people we knew. Sometimes relatives of classmates. Sometimes complete strangers. The nuns knew we'd do a good, dignified job. It always felt like we were helping the survivors through a tough time.

 

[MoKelly]

We don't go to funerals to see the dead person. We go to see the living people. Friends and relatives. As I mentioned before, funerals are for the living. We cope in a group. When my parents passed away, it was nice to see many of their old friends, relatives and coworkers.

I also like being a pallbearer for my friends and relatives. It makes me feel like I'm doing something to help, and I also feel it's my duty to carry my family members to their final resting place if I'm able. Take care of things right up to the end. All part of the process.

When I was in Catholic grade school, a friend of mine and I were frequently called out of class to be alter boys for funerals. Sometimes people we knew. Sometimes relatives of classmates. Sometimes complete strangers. The nuns knew we'd do a good, dignified job. It always felt like we were helping the survivors through a tough time.

100%.

I also went to Catholic school thru high school. I also was taught by nuns. Something you have to experience to understand.

That is a bygone time.

MoKelly

 

[MossRoad]

100%.

I also went to Catholic school thru high school. I also was taught by nuns. Something you have to experience to understand.

That is a bygone time.

MoKelly

Yep, you have to experience it to understand it, that's for sure. I'm not sad to see the nuns go and lay teachers take their place. Anything beyond that is probably a discussion for another forum.

 

[user.69169]

Yep, you have to experience it to understand it, that's for sure. I'm not sad to see the nuns go and lay teachers take their place. Anything beyond that is probably a discussion for another forum.

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Woman ripped up at least 10 printouts of Emancipation Proclamation because Sister taught Lincoln freed de slaves. When one of her fellow workers told her I right, she comes out wid "Sister was probably misinformed". I just grin.

 

[Steppenwolfe]

I born wet, cold & hungry, hope to go out different, but might not. Been dyin since day I was born, no other way off planet. Eternal file drawer & funeral all paid for. Bills are all paid. I can off top of my head think of 40 ladies & men now gone, close my eyes and see most. Some I went to funerals and told jokes and stories. Headed for MIL's funeral 10 years back get lit up on de superslab, pull over, Deputy steps up I say mornin son. He wants me he got me 20 over fair & square. He asks where I'm goin, Williamsport, gotta be at funeral in morning. He says they on DWI harvest bein St Pats day. OK you got one handy I be happy to put my gimp stick to him for ya. Drunk driver how I came to use stick.. He stops laughin and tells me to keep it slow down to rest stop where Troopers runnin radar. Asks by de way, who funeral for? Mother in Law, might meet Chinese Ambassador verifyin dey can stop payin her royalties on toretures. He says he figured, I seemed happy.

Stepped in to funeral 30 years back of good man and mentor, family all standin handshakin. Stepped to coffin Big Ed layin der in white suit. Knew Ed 20 years, never saw him in suit, kinda shocking. Went back talkin wid family, said pretty sure Ed got chow figured out upstairs, and where best rootbeer floats are. Everybody crackin up. Plenty good memorys and storys. Ed didn't need cryin, he needed his family to keep movin ahead.

Figure de people who matter to me I take to dinner now so dey ain't gotta eat memorial meal cryin in de soup. Might be last time some of us together breathing. Pretty sure I lived every day of my life cept for a few in hospitals, remember who came by to visit when I was in. Most people I know everybody knows each other dogs and cats names cause dey family too and greet appropriately. When dey roll me to drawer Stars & Bars be on top of box, and be some fine dogs walkin along wid me. Be more waitin at de bridge. Fiddler be playin. What anybody say about me of no matter, I tell something it truth best I know. If I wrong 1000 angels singin bout purity of my intention make no difference.

Long & short, everybody walk life path alone, nobody but you inside head. Way too much social pressure to make somebody happy, don't none change you bein alone. Anybody lamenting how dey miss me when I gone should have spent more time wid me while I breathin.

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[Industrial Toys]

I like relating to people one on one. Have a real conversation, none of this talking about the weather, superfluous communications. I find humans just get extra stupid when in a group. Is that honest enough? Not saying I wouldn't go to the funeral of a friend or family member, but I wouldn't like the "gathering" aspect of it. Don't even get me satrate on a "celebration of life".

Besides, having to spend money on dress clothes that FIT, might kill me too.