Honesty

[Citydude]

I was at a funeral where I told a family member that I was sorry for the loss of his mother in-law. He said he was glad she was dead, that she was a bitter old woman who needed to die.

That shocked me. What do you say to that? I felt it was classless and juvenile of him to say that at her funeral.

The dead can not defend themselves.

 

[MossRoad]

I was at a funeral where I told a family member that I was sorry for the loss of his mother in-law. He said he was glad she was dead, that she was a bitter old woman who needed to die.

That shocked me. What do you say to that? I felt it was classless and juvenile of him to say that at her funeral.

The dead can not defend themselves.

I've heard a lot of similar comments about living in-laws here on TBN. I'm fortunate that my in-laws took me in like one of their own since day one. My wife and I are doing that with our future son in-law (it helps that we actually like him :laughing: ).

Funerals are for the living.

 

[Hay Dude]

I was at a funeral where I told a family member that I was sorry for the loss of his mother in-law. He said he was glad she was dead, that she was a bitter old woman who needed to die.

That shocked me. What do you say to that? I felt it was classless and juvenile of him to say that at her funeral.

The dead can not defend themselves.

It is classless. I have seen ugliness like that more times than I want to remember. Wifes side of the family has extreme bitterness in some quarters. Funerals, weddings and births can be more stressful than I can bear.
Nothing like that on my side.

 

[CobyRupert]

Agree. It’s just legal violence. I was a collegiate boxer and looking back on it, it was gross......And waking up the next day with a concussion after drinking off a loss is not going to reward me later in my older years....
That MMA stuff is just too violent. Boxing aint far behind. A lot depends on the ref.

Yep, and football ain’t far behind that. Take a look at their lifespans and the percentage that end up with CTE. Modern day coliseum games.We get to love the violence, and ignore the deaths that are for our entertainment because they are off camera a few years later. The gladiators are well compensated so we shrug.

 

[CobyRupert]

I will say this; I consider myself an honest person, but sometimes it's best to just keep your mouth shut. I dislike confrontation, and there must be something in it to make my life better or else I avoid it. Nobody ever wins a piss fight with a skunk.
So let it be with Caesar.

Well said.

 

[Hay Dude]

Yep, and football ain’t far behind that. Take a look at their lifespans and the percentage that end up with CTE. Modern day coliseum games.We get to love the violence, and ignore the deaths that are for our entertainment because they are off camera a few years later. The gladiators are well compensated so we shrug.

I know- I have symptoms of it- from multiple concussions, but I wasnt well compensated

 

[Fuddy1952]

To me it gets into the pot calling the kettle black, throwing stones living in a glass house, or John 8: 1-11.
When someone dies, no matter how evil they may have been, they're gone. What purpose does it serve saying how bad they were or good riddance. No one is perfect, we've all made mistakes. Speaking ill of someone else doesn't make the speaker a better person.

 

[Diggin It]

When someone dies, no matter how evil they may have been, they're gone. What purpose does it serve saying how bad they were or good riddance.

Honesty is more honorable than dishonesty or omission.

 

[MossRoad]

Honesty is more honorable than dishonesty or omission.

Let's test that....

Your mother was ugly and she dressed funny. She was mean, too.

Hmm.... I'll take omission.

 

[MoKelly]

Let's test that....

Your mother was ugly and she dressed funny. She was mean, too.

Hmm.... I'll take omission.

No one thinks their Mother was ugly!!!!

Now, dressing funny is another matter.

MoKelly

 

[ultrarunner]

My German exchange student and I went to the Community College Saturday Swap meet and an elderly gentleman had his table set-up and as we were walking by said he was making deals today...

My student quickly replied she doesn't buy trash... Europeans tend to be direct and English isn't her first language... in other words a tactless reply.

The fellow was not quite sure he heard what he heard and asked... I quickly grabbed her hand and said "No Cash" as trash and cash sounding similar... and placated the situation.

We moved down a little and she said why did you lie... and I said why did you hurt the old man's feelings?

Then I was getting a lecture on Americans are afraid to say what they think... and so it went and I said one's trash is another's treasure...

She was a stunningly beautiful young lady and one would not have expected her being blunt and direct.

 

[PILOON]

I believe I know what "the" truth is; yet on Sunday morning preacher tv I find myself not believing a word they say... :confused3:

While I rarely listen to Bible Thumpers, especially TY ones, I'm appalled by the attitude 'do as I say but not as I do'.
Like alms for poor while the Thumper drives a Lamborgini lives in a $5 mil home!

Catholic church is just as bad. Hiding perverts, hoarding art treasures from WW2, I could go on.

Do unto others as you'd wish to be done to you.

 

[ultrarunner]

I was with several students in Prague... we were on train going to Vienna... all nursing students in the group

Two from Denmark, one Swiss and two Austria.

The Swiss girl was being hit on to no end by two drunk Czech guys... we could not sit altogether... and I was oblivious until one of the nurses alerted me.

I got up and moved to sit next to her... she grab my arm and said I was her boyfriend... the guys stopped in their tracks and said Sorry Mr President several times and left...

Another total fabricated lie on the spur of the moment...

 

[JethroB]

Honesty is more honorable than dishonesty or omission.

I believe myself to be honest. But I strive for integrity, which is much more encompassing. I would include keeping one's mouth shut at appropriate times to be part of its definition.

 

[CobyRupert]

“Truth”, “honesty” and “facts”.
Around here, the newspaper will write an editorial piece. Facts and honesty and truth sprinkled with opinions and selective omissions. The number of people who jump and holler and don’t know that’s it’s an editorial is mind-boggling. So many people don’t know the difference an between “honest, truthful, factual“ opinion and a news story.
Like those people at the funeral “She was a cold mean...” You might be honest and truthful, but it’s YOUR truth, YOUR opinion. It’s rude to think everyone should have yours.

.....says the guy spouting his opinion on the internet.

 

[MossRoad]

No one thinks their Mother was ugly!!!!

Now, dressing funny is another matter.

MoKelly

Hey, she wasn't my mother. She was his mother.

 

[JethroB]

Hey, she wasn't my mother. She was his mother.

I always heard it as: ... and she dresses YOU funny.

 

[MossRoad]

I always heard it as: ... and she dresses YOU funny.

Yeah, it was:
You're ugly and your mother dresses you funny, but I was modifying the line for being honest at funerals, which you should not be sometimes.

 

[Steppenwolfe]

Let's test that....

Your mother was ugly and she dressed funny. She was mean, too.

Hmm.... I'll take omission.

HA... insulting mothers. Must be a lesson in there somewhere.

 

[Jstpssng]

What the OP describes isn't being honest; he merely feels the need expressing an opinion, at the most inopportune time.. Sometimes it's best to keep those to yourself. We may have freedom of speech yet every right includes an equal amount of responsibility.