Instilling a strong work ethic

[CajunRider]

Today is all about Survivor style work. Those with good work ethics get **** on. Good work ethics is a thing of the past just like most good things form generations before. its all about progressing.....imo progressing into nothing. Teach your kids to compete survivor style not work ethics style.

I guess then I and all my kids are dinosaurs. Perhaps we will get **** on but we still will survive some way some how. I know my kids are interested in getting their future offsprings to have the same work ethics because they ask me to teach their children things once they have children.

 

[DrRod]

In another thread there were lots of cases cited where the kids were made to do some noxious chore as punishment. I think this is the wrong thing to do. If work is punishment they will grow up hating it. I also think kids hate work because much of it is lonely. If you work together in the garden and talk and joke the whole time the work becomes second nature. I've seen Amish families harvesting corn together and it looked like a party. And try to find something interesting for the kid to do so its not all drudgery. I gave one of my kids responsibility for the martin house and he took such pride in it and kept it clean and in ship shape for years. And I don't mind giving money to them for work -- they are part of the household and should share in what is produced. So I guess the point is to make work a positive experience to the extent possible. End of my two cents on the matter.

 

[Redlands Okie]

Money for helping out around the house or chores I am not sure about. But the rest of the ideas sounds good to me. Might as well work a positive experience.

 

[hawkeye08]

I set a good example for my kids, involved them in the work at home even though it often took longer to do it with them than if I had just done it myself. 2 of my 3 daughters are hard workers as adults, the youngest has has changed jobs at least once a year, never happy.

 

[bunyip]

Money for helping out around the house or chores I am not sure about. But the rest of the ideas sounds good to me. Might as well work a positive experience.

They expect an allowance, I expect something in return.
Ours started off with small jobs like emptying the dishwasher and such like, cleaning their rooms is their responsibility and if dirty washing doesn't go in the washing basket it doesn't get washed, quite simple really.
Eldest daughter (30) is at home and does the washing and puts it out, she is a full time med student and cant afford to live away from home so she gets free board and she washes and cleans around home.
She did vet science then decided to do medicine so we are stuck with her for another couple of years.

 

[CajunRider]

In another thread there were lots of cases cited where the kids were made to do some noxious chore as punishment. I think this is the wrong thing to do. If work is punishment they will grow up hating it. I also think kids hate work because much of it is lonely. If you work together in the garden and talk and joke the whole time the work becomes second nature. I've seen Amish families harvesting corn together and it looked like a party. And try to find something interesting for the kid to do so its not all drudgery. I gave one of my kids responsibility for the martin house and he took such pride in it and kept it clean and in ship shape for years. And I don't mind giving money to them for work -- they are part of the household and should share in what is produced. So I guess the point is to make work a positive experience to the extent possible. End of my two cents on the matter.

I've never used chores as punishment. Whenever I asked my kids to do something, I'm usually along side them doing the same thing or doing something to help them. I never give money for chores however. I give them money for whenever they ask if the requests are within reasons.

 

[Dftodd]

I've never used chores as punishment. Whenever I asked my kids to do something, I'm usually along side them doing the same thing or doing something to help them. I never give money for chores however. I give them money for whenever they ask if the requests are within reasons.

Our kids had to earn the spending money, through chores and such. And..... They had to plan ahead if they had something they needed money for as well. No last second, you do this for me, and I'll do this for you type deal. If not they got what they wanted, and left you high and dry

Took a couple no's for it to sink in, but then they got it. Sons used to mow the yard and help with wood, and other outdoor tasks and there rooms and bathroom. Daughter would take care of her room, and sweep and mop the main areas of the house (living room, kitchen/ dining room, and hallways) as well as the bathroom. The kids bathroom was all of there responsibilities.

Daughter figured it out really fast. If I came home from work with her meeting me at the door, house was spotless, and dishes were done, I knew my wallet was fixing to take a beating big time

 

[dieselscout80]

Example!!

Work the snot out of yourself right beside him as he’s getting the snot worked out too.

Our son is a real worker.

But now it’s getting hard to keep up. ��

 

[4570Man]

I never got any allowance. I mowed my grandpas yard for spending money. My mom worked and use kids did most of the housework.

 

[teejk]

Example!!

Work the snot out of yourself right beside him as he’s getting the snot worked out too.

Our son is a real worker.

But now it’s getting hard to keep up. ��

Yup...but sooner or later you hand the tasks off to him and he becomes you and his children become him.