m1garand762
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This. This is the part that is bugging me. I had never heard of this. I am not a social person. I happily have few friends. I don't go out. I have no interest or need to meet his parents before the rehearsal. It is not our rodeo, or theirs. I value my time and any 'decisions' will not require my input. I suggested that maybe my wife and his mom get coffee instead. I also feel like his parents are trying to force the kids into doing things their way using money to do so. They had them change from a Friday night to a Saturday. It was cheaper venues on Friday...said they would pay difference. Wanted an open bar...said they would pay difference. The list goes on....then, after the kids signed contracts they started the back tracking. Turns out they are not paying the difference.
I am not what people would call diplomatic. I say what I mean and mean what I say. Not likely I could have dinner with these people and not light into them. It would be in their home, so that would be rude. Better, to my way of thinking, that I just decline. I am really having a hard time seeing any value here. After the wedding, we are moving 2 hours away to our property. The way I see it, the only times I would ever see these people are for major events and then just in passing. (the rehearsal, the wedding, any future baptisms or, god forbid, funerals.). I can be cordial like I would with a business acquaintance. I would not seek them out because we are the 'old folks'. I am perfectly content to watch the youngsters in silence or to talk to my wife.
Thanks to those who have replied. I 100% know I will be crying. I cried when my own wife walked up the aisle with her friend's dad giving her away. Daughter and I are both pretty emotional, so I hope to keep her from crying (I didn't have to worry about makeup).
On the venue..the wedding will be in our church. I can literally see it from my back yard. The reception is closer to the center of the city. The priest is one they knew from camp. (they met as camp counselors at a church camp).
I am the same way. I say it like I see it and my mother in law don’t get it. I make her cry every time I see her she doesn’t understand that her being a low like scumbag is like a waist high fast ball for me.