Again, you are so naive. By your own description in the bold print above.
From your description, your family is several notches below Doug. Not in a bad way. Just in a small way. At some point the assets need to be diversified and invested where they can be protected. Doug is a Master at that. You might see a land transaction in the paper next week where he sold some land. And then you'll see a transaction where he bought some land. He does so based on profitability. He owns approximately 17,000 acres of tillable farm land. I have no idea how many thousands of acres of timber, pasture, hay land.
Your successful operation farming family members would very much enjoy visiting with him. And he with them. Neither would consider the other in a bad light. And certainly wouldn't consider him an absentee farmer.
Edit: Forgot to mention the derogatory "inherit a large farming operation" comment. No he did not. Joined the Marines out of High School, served for three years. Came home and started building his farming enterprise. His Dad often criticized Doug for fear that he was going to go broke. Doug bleeds farming.