greasemonkeyok
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Eddie's advice is spot on. Good post.
I need to sell Mossflower Woods, and sooner rather than later...
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Think like a buyer, the first few weeks on the market are where the sales are.
dmccarty
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Sorry to hear how things are going.
If the situation can be worked out, I hope it does. Just remember, as bleak as things are right now, it does get better over time.
Later,
Dan
If the situation can be worked out, I hope it does. Just remember, as bleak as things are right now, it does get better over time.
Later,
Dan
brin
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David ...fight hard to make it work...sell a motorcycle or two and buy your wife something she has wanted...No one wins in a divorce except attorneys from what I have heard and witnessed seeing friends of ours go through the process....especially the kids....Hope it all works out for your family.
creekbend
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David: I sincerely wish you and your Family the very best.
Chilly807
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David, I'm sorry to hear you're going through a rough patch. Like some of the other guys have said, if there's any way at all to work it out between you and your wife that leaves you both happy and intact as the people you are or want to be, then I'd suggest you work towards that goal first. If you have to be someone you're not, or she does, then it might be the time to go your own ways. My wife of 13 years and I split in 2001, it wasn't repairable by the time it finally blew up.
Now, I'm very happily remarried (go figure!) to a wonderful woman, who is the reason I'm living in God's country, knee deep in critters (horses and cats) and about as happy as an old guy can get. It worked out well for me in the end, though I still have regrets about my first marriage. You roll with the punches and re-build your life, hopefully having figured out what went wrong the first time around.
If you do need to sell, good luck with it.. I think the hardest part is accepting that it's not going to work, even after all the time and emotion that's been poured in to it over the years, and start over.
Like I started out saying, make it work if you possibly can, but not at the expense of being someone you're not. There's something said about "Be true unto thy own self".. sounds biblical to me and it probably is, truer words were never said.
Sean
Now, I'm very happily remarried (go figure!) to a wonderful woman, who is the reason I'm living in God's country, knee deep in critters (horses and cats) and about as happy as an old guy can get. It worked out well for me in the end, though I still have regrets about my first marriage. You roll with the punches and re-build your life, hopefully having figured out what went wrong the first time around.
If you do need to sell, good luck with it.. I think the hardest part is accepting that it's not going to work, even after all the time and emotion that's been poured in to it over the years, and start over.
Like I started out saying, make it work if you possibly can, but not at the expense of being someone you're not. There's something said about "Be true unto thy own self".. sounds biblical to me and it probably is, truer words were never said.
Sean
texasjohn
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To thine own self be true,
then must follow as the night the day,
thou can'st then be false to any man.
Shakespear
then must follow as the night the day,
thou can'st then be false to any man.
Shakespear
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Wishing you and the family all the best.David, sorry you are looking at selling your land. I had hoped things might get better now that the horses are gone.
Eddie Walker has a great post here, it really is some good advice.
Eddie Walker has a great post here, it really is some good advice.
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All,
Thank you for the support and advice MUCH of it very good.
I have NO INTENTION to divorce, and neither does she (at the moment at least).
The reason I am thinking hard about selling (cannot rent it for enough to cover the costs) is because she is finally admitting that the tiny house has killed the joy of country living. She loves the land, HATES the house. This has NOT helped resolve our under the surface marriage issues, most of which fall from my becoming scared when I lost my job for 11 months and burned up all our reserves in that time. I became autocratic and angry and in denial about it ad I've been mean it seems.
She also HATES the much longer drive to town for the girls lessons, shopping, etc.
When we fix the marriage, the NEXT time we buy country property, I will ensure the house is AWESOME and the gardens rock so SHE is happy from day one.
This place with it's cramped size and no $$ for remodel due to work loss etc. she just really, really stressed and burned out.
I've done many different kinds of hard work in the past. This is just a new version of hard work...
God Bless & Be well,
David
Thank you for the support and advice MUCH of it very good.
I have NO INTENTION to divorce, and neither does she (at the moment at least).
The reason I am thinking hard about selling (cannot rent it for enough to cover the costs) is because she is finally admitting that the tiny house has killed the joy of country living. She loves the land, HATES the house. This has NOT helped resolve our under the surface marriage issues, most of which fall from my becoming scared when I lost my job for 11 months and burned up all our reserves in that time. I became autocratic and angry and in denial about it ad I've been mean it seems.
She also HATES the much longer drive to town for the girls lessons, shopping, etc.
When we fix the marriage, the NEXT time we buy country property, I will ensure the house is AWESOME and the gardens rock so SHE is happy from day one.
This place with it's cramped size and no $$ for remodel due to work loss etc. she just really, really stressed and burned out.
I've done many different kinds of hard work in the past. This is just a new version of hard work...
God Bless & Be well,
David