You are correct - 18'10'' is what the span table says for an L/360 result with a 10# dead load and 40 # live load. I'm a few inches under, so should be good to go (in that regard at least). I have to think that the IPE will help on the deflection front as well, along with the blocking. I hope to avoid the girder since I'd like to use the area under the deck.
You are also correct on the stairs - they are for illustrative purposes only. The deck top is actually 11'7" up from grade. The stairs are planned for later after I figure out what I'm going to do about a retaining wall issue (which impacts usable space). If I have the space (and it turns out we are using the deck alot), plans are to build a second, lower level deck. If not, I'll just build the stairs down as depicted, but have them either extend beyond the deck or have them return (either towards the house or back on themselves).
I remain undecided on the best way to bolt the railing posts. Originally, they were going to be bolted to the rim joist as you inferred. When I was adding in this extra detail, however, I thought about instead bolting them to the pictured blocking or possibly even using one bolt against the blocking and the other on the rim. I can't apparently exceed 6' OC for the railings, so the posts sort of have to stay location-wise about as drawn. Having railing posts ONLY where there are support posts won't be sufficient.
I will go ahead and make the migration to either 5/8" HDG machine bolts (if they make those?) or SS machine bolts with the larger washers as you suggested - thanks for that (and everything else, really). I was worried about the smaller washers compressing the wood anyway. Plans indeed are to place these as far apart as possible.
To give the deck a bit more character, plans are to run a 5.5" deck board parallel with the perimeter of the rim joists with about a 1" overhang over the 1" wide fascia wrap depicted and then run the other deck boards up to them. I've attached an even more updated drawing that depicts the extra blocking that will be necessary between the outer railing posts blocking to support the edge of these perimeter boards and the ends of the others.
Regarding the utilities, I already have a hose bib up there, an electrical outlet, a deck light, and even a gas supply from the house for the grill (no more running out mid-grill session!).
Plans are to run the railing tops at 36" or maybe a tiny bit higher (I have to see what the assembled product looks like), have the posts sit at 39", and then post caps above that.
Plans are also to run low voltage wires between the posts using a gap I designed into the railing top and then route (not looking forward to that) out a slot in the 1x wrap material to allow wire to get to railing post side lights and maybe even cap lights of some kind. I haven't yet figured out how to get the low voltage wires to the transformer, which could either be placed at the now-depicted electrical outlet or at one of the already existing outlets on the lower level beneath the deck (sort of voting for the latter on that as it seems likely that I'll want landscape lights down there, too, just anyway).
Lastly, as I am a bit concerned about the outer left edge of the deck being dark given the location of the house deck light and the stairs not being illuminated adequately (though embedded riser lights are planned), the outer corner rail post of the deck will sit 8' off of the deck surface with a switchable 110V light atop. To avoid concerns about that inner core wood twisting (as PT wood loves to do), plans are to use a 4x4x10 piece of cedar for that and wrap it with the 1x IPE. I'm a bit uncomfortable running 110V wire with so little protection as the low voltage stuff will have so am apt to route out the cedar post to accept that and cover the resultant channel with a 1" or so strip of 16 gauge galvanized plate to avoid the possibility/likelihood of hitting it later if someone at some point gets the grand idea to hang a flower pot or something off of that post.
What do you think?