It is a shame that you are so turned off by logging - but understandable from what you have described of your experience with it. From what I have seen your experience is to common but not at all necessary. I have seen many wood lots, large and small, which were managed for timber where anyone would be proud to be the owner.
Through logging you have the chance to work with nature to make your woodlot the best it can be. Instead of the management being only through the randomness of nature you can add your own personal preferences by the manipulation of the woodlot through logging. But as clemsonfor said the landowner, forester, and logger must all have the same vision.
