In my opinion a diverter is the best solenoid type option if a true third function scv isn't available. My tractor actually HAS a third unused spool but I figured it would be easier to do a diverter and I still have the extra spool if I want it later.
I'm sure someone will differ with this opinion but I see no reason to operate the bucket curl and
grapple clamp simultaneously. A diverter with a momentary switch allows you to switch from curl to clamp open/close and automatically goes back to normal as soon as you release the button. It took me a few times to remember to move the loader handle back to neutral before releasing the button but I am good with it now.
I used a DSV-62-08-12 solenoid selector valve. (currently $118 at Bailey) It has common #8 SAE oring boss ports so adapters are readily available. Very easy to plumb! You just move the bucket curl hoses to the inlet ports, add hoses to the opposite side ports back to the bucket curl lines, and add a couple of hoses for the
grapple. Then you just need a momentary switch on the loader handle to activate the solenoid.
My method and specific components won't apply to your tractors but it may give some insight on using a solenoid selector valve to divert the hydraulics.
https://www.tractorbynet.com/forums...7799-3rd-function-selector-valve-install.html
Since that post I had to aim the inlet hoses at an upward angle to prevent chafing and I replaced the
grapple hoses with a couple of shorter ones from TS.
You don't have to get fancy on the momentary switch. I imagine you can find some sort of surface mount switch you could zip tie to the handle. The valve only draws 2-1/2 amps so you won't need fancy wiring and relays if you get a decent switch and appropriate wire size.