How would you handle this neighbor issue?

edlegault · May 7, 2012

One more thought: after getting it surveyed, put up a good fence, then send him a bill for his half of the fence costs along his side :laughing:

dmccarty · May 7, 2012

I don't know if this would work, or even if I would try this, but here is an idea.

Many years ago I had a girl friend that spent a couple of years in Japan teaching English. She had a party one night in her place and the lady next door was pounding on the wall to get them to quiet down. Which they did not.

The next morning there was a knock on the door. It was the lady next door whom the girl friend's party had disturbed. The lady had a big basket of fresh fruit. Fresh fruit is very expensive in Japan. The lady gave the basket of fruit to my girl friend and the LADY apologized for banging on the wall disturbing my girl friends party. :laughing:

The lady SHAMED my girl friend with the gift. :thumbsup:

The girl friend never threw a loud party again. :laughing:

I have never been in a position to try The Gift Of Shame but someday it might be useful.

Later,
Dan

MossRoad · May 7, 2012

Robert_in_NY said:
... I just wanted to be nice and try to be freindly ...

That'll teach ya! :laughing:

As others have said, stay away from them. Don't interract with them. Have the property surveyed, fenced and marked. Good luck. :thumbsup:

kf4uda · May 7, 2012

dmccarty said:
I don't know if this would work, or even if I would try this, but here is an idea.

Many years ago I had a girl friend that spent a couple of years in Japan teaching English. She had a party one night in her place and the lady next door was pounding on the wall to get them to quiet down. Which they did not.

The next morning there was a knock on the door. It was the lady next door whom the girl friend's party had disturbed. The lady had a big basket of fresh fruit. Fresh fruit is very expensive in Japan. The lady gave the basket of fruit to my girl friend and the LADY apologized for banging on the wall disturbing my girl friends party. :laughing:

The lady SHAMED my girl friend with the gift. :thumbsup:

The girl friend never threw a loud party again. :laughing:

I have never been in a position to try The Gift Of Shame but someday it might be useful.

Later,
Dan

Maybe some revision of that idea would be something to try. Just replace basket of fruit with some act of kindness of your choice. Abraham Lincoln once said "The best way to destroy your enemy is to make him your friend". While they may not be your enemy yet, it sounds like it may be headed in that direction. I personally would much rather have another friend than an enemy. I will admit that some people do make it tough.

Robert_in_NY · May 7, 2012

kf4uda said:
Maybe some revision of that idea would be something to try. Just replace basket of fruit with some act of kindness of your choice. Abraham Lincoln once said "The best way to destroy your enemy is to make him your friend". While they may not be your enemy yet, it sounds like it may be headed in that direction. I personally would much rather have another friend than an enemy. I will admit that some people do make it tough.

I didn't want them to be an enemy. I tried to be friendly and introduce myself properly. I don't intend to let things excalate, I'm just going to survey, mark, post and move on with my life. But for every little setback something good always comes up unexpectedly and today more then made up for yesterday

zonta223 · May 7, 2012

Robert_in_NY said:
The wife did say she wants me to cut down a small locust grove because it blocks her view of the fireworks display the local winery puts on every year. She has lots of ideas for my ground I believe.

Also, I dont live there. We have 150 acres there now and are about to add another 35 acre parcel. We're going to have a Vineyard running almost the entire length of that boundary

Wait till you start to spray the vines and do you harvest at night? I can imagine their reaction to that. Seen it many times people buy property next to a vineyard and want the vineyard to cease operation.
And with out a secure boundary fence I can imagine newly planted vine growth could be under threat and or unwanted crop "thinning" when they get ripe.
Luckily I have no problems with my neighbors and a couple of bottles of wine helps smooths the way. :laughing:

Robert_in_NY · May 7, 2012

zonta223 said:
Wait till you start to spray the vines and do you harvest at night? I can imagine their reaction to that. Seen it many times people buy property next to a vineyard and want the vineyard to cease operation.
And with out a secure boundary fence I can imagine newly planted vine growth could be under threat and or unwanted crop "thinning" when they get ripe.
Luckily I have no problems with my neighbors and a couple of bottles of wine helps smooths the way. :laughing:

They have been there long before me. My farm isn't a problem, the grapes have been growing there for at least 30 years. I'm just expanding them. The neighbor has a horse and the wife mentioned that they bale their own hay. So I do not feel farming is going to be an issue. Their just not the most personable from my experience so far. It's a shame really as its better when neighbors get along.

RobertN · May 7, 2012

Not to go off topic, but...

What kind of grapes are you growing? Wine, table, or? I would have guessed you were kinda far north from grapes...

the area I am in, the "heart" of the 1849 Gold Rush, is also a big wine area. No real big places like some in Napa, but a lot of small to medium size wineries.

Robert_in_NY said:
My farm isn't a problem, the grapes have been growing there for at least 30 years. I'm just expanding them.

yandeereguy · May 7, 2012

IronHog said:
This..........

Survey

Fence

Avoid

Visible Sidearm (I think people seeing you legally well armed on your property is one of the best things any landowner can do.....cuts down on bullies, theft, trespass, etc.)

who wants to argue with a guy open carrying.. Now I'm not saying open carrying is like the wild west but are you gonna start shooting grass clippings at a guy thats got a cannon on his hip.. sounds like a real chicken **** man if you ask me.. to coward to talk

Robert_in_NY · May 7, 2012

RobertN said:
Not to go off topic, but...

What kind of grapes are you growing? Wine, table, or? I would have guessed you were kinda far north from grapes...

the area I am in, the "heart" of the 1849 Gold Rush, is also a big wine area. No real big places like some in Napa, but a lot of small to medium size wineries.

We're protected by lake erie which makes along this area excellent for grapes. I have 3 acres of catawbas, 2.5 acres of niagaras and 27.5 acres of concords. Our grapes go to welches and another processor for juice and jellies. The catawabs go to a processor for pressing and sold to wineries.