I dont see any labeling to tell which is which, But I'd assume that yours is the 2nd and 3rd pics and your buddys is the 1st and 4th???
If so, something is definatally not right with yours? I am not sure we covered this (an I am too lazy to go back and look:laughing

but...
how old is your machine?
Warrenty????
Did the dealer install the SS QA????
And in the last pic of your buddys being all the way dumped, it doesnt even look right. Is it ALL the way dumped??? Because I feel it should be hitting the mechanical stop, but instead, it looks like the cylinder is maxing out well before that, even though it isnt touching the arm:confused2: If that is the case, he could wind up in the same boat as you, but instead of a bent rod, he could tear the front right off the cylinder by over-extending it if he isnt carefull. It should definatally be hitting that mechanical stop. And it appears that the SS QA moves everything more forward.
Also, have you taken any detailed measurments of pin spacing and distances to see if yours may be different than his??
Either way, IMO, they BOTH need addressing.