I think they guys are right: It is pressure preventing the coupling and unscrewing the connector of course relieves that pressure.
I am puzzled however by the picture you provided on the orig post. That connector says Pioneer stamped right on it. Typically 'Pioneer' connectors are "shove hard or pull hard" to attach or to detach. I always called them "AG connectors" too. Thus they have no sleeves to take the spring pressure off of ball bearings. Considerably cheaper than the flat-face skid-steer styles. I am confused by that photo and the several descriptions of your experience.