Just wanted to update. The two tractors in question were the Kioti DK47SE and the NX5010. In the end I went back and drove both tractors and ended up going with the DK. There were a few main reasons.
1. In my opinion the DK handling was quite a bit tighter than the NX and in a meaningful way. On paper you maybe can't see it but on the tractors its pretty obvious. I feel like this is going to be important in a lot of the situations I am going to be working in and, Im hoping, ends up balancing out against the lighter weight and extra horses of the NX.
2. Going in, the lack of fender mounted joystick was one of the bigger concerns of mine considering the DK, but it ended up almost being the opposite. It turns out that, being 6'6, my long arms put the joystick mounted on the FEL pretty much right in my grasp without really having to reach whereas the fender JS almost felt cramped. Additionally, Im pretty thin so I can easily fit out of the right side of the tractor and the lack of step means nothing because I can step right on to the platform

The pedal -> seat distance was a bit more cramped but not a deal breaker.
3. There wasn't much feedback regarding the electronic niceties of the NX. Most opinions on those seem to be that they can be really nice but if you never had them you wont know what you're missing.
In the end with a price difference of 5k I couldn't really justify the NX but, more importantly, my gut was telling me that the DK would suit my needs better. I hope I dont regret my decision because its being delivered TODAY. Ill post pics after she's here. Ive waited a long time for this!
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ETA: Im going with the quick hitch to start and am going to see how that suits my needs. If I end up wanting to add the telescoping lower arms that is an option in the future.