Sorry to hear about the folks with no power. I took the wife to Monroe County on Saturday for an antique show and they were late starting because their power was out. We didn't know there was a state of emergency until we were already there and heard it on the radio. We didn't see any problems except power outages in Brockport and Chili.
Franz, you are right about oversizing. I can power my whole house with a 5 KW or so generator, and I only went that big so that if the fridge, well pump, and septic pump started at the same time I had a chance it would keep running. All my heating appliances burn natural gas, though.
Is equipment available (purchase outright or a local rental) that will figure out peak usage for motor startup, etc.?