Neighbor Tractor Accident

[ovrszd]

True. And all of us suffer from PTSD to some degree. The lesser your personal degree of severity, the easier your life has been.

 

[Steppenwolfe]

No therapy will remove memories. No therapy will make them tolerable. These solutions are inside the person. This is how we got the term PTSD. It defines those that cannot control the irreversible memories. I use the "roll top desk" method. My life is stored in a roll top desk. I can open the desk and select whichever small drawer that I want. My hard times are stored in those drawers. I can open the drawer and review the contents until it becomes disturbing, then I close the drawer, to be reviewed at a later time when I can control it. The contents of these drawers never go away. They are simply properly stored and secured. Each drawer is labeled so there's no surprise. That's a key element. No surprise. My desk has many drawers. They contribute to who I am rather than take away from that person.

Very insightful... thanks.

 

[MossRoad]

No therapy will remove memories. No therapy will make them tolerable. These solutions are inside the person. This is how we got the term PTSD. It defines those that cannot control the irreversible memories. I use the "roll top desk" method. My life is stored in a roll top desk. I can open the desk and select whichever small drawer that I want. My hard times are stored in those drawers. I can open the drawer and review the contents until it becomes disturbing, then I close the drawer, to be reviewed at a later time when I can control it. The contents of these drawers never go away. They are simply properly stored and secured. Each drawer is labeled so there's no surprise. That's a key element. No surprise. My desk has many drawers. They contribute to who I am rather than take away from that person.

Great analogy.

 

[bunyip]

I do a little pro bono work with Vietnam Vets with PTSD and some of the hard cases can be a bit hostile and yell at me asking how I think I would know what it was like.
I pull my jacket back and show my ribbon bar on my shirt and yell back at them 'because I was there too', generally gets me on a good footing with them when they realise I do know what they are going through and we can get to work.
Sounds rough but it works as they hate text book experts, generally quite a friendly session after that.
I use the roll top desk with some but doesn't work for everyone, tell some to buy a dog but make sure it is a rotweiler and when you feel angry you can kick it but be aware that it will bite back and you will be worse off, gives them something to think about and approach the problem rationally when you imagine a leg full of teeth.
No two are the same of course.

 

[ovrszd]

I do a little pro bono work with Vietnam Vets with PTSD and some of the hard cases can be a bit hostile and yell at me asking how I think I would know what it was like.
I pull my jacket back and show my ribbon bar on my shirt and yell back at them 'because I was there too', generally gets me on a good footing with them when they realise I do know what they are going through and we can get to work.
Sounds rough but it works as they hate text book experts, generally quite a friendly session after that.
I use the roll top desk with some but doesn't work for everyone, tell some to buy a dog but make sure it is a rotweiler and when you feel angry you can kick it but be aware that it will bite back and you will be worse off, gives them something to think about and approach the problem rationally when you imagine a leg full of teeth.
No two are the same of course.

Thank you for your service.

I saw an Aussie unit once. Kinda freaked me out. Up to that point I had thought we were doing it by ourselves. Sorry for that.

 

[BigBlue1]

Good story. I plan ahead and try to avoid being trapped by traffic. In your situation you sometimes find yourself in the middle of it before any prevention action can be taken.

I'm sure you've noticed this also, but, notice how cars tend to run in packs??? Something about human nature triggers that I guess......

I'm 3 miles East of the Eagleville exit.

Definitely human nature to do things like that. I've noticed in my 30+ years of driving (with tons of metro freeways and lots of long distance interstates) that same phenomenon. Many times I've followed someone who is cruising along in the left lane and doing like 5 over the posted when nobody is around them. But they come to another car or truck in the right lane and they end up slowed down and speed matching for quite a while. If/when they get past they rocket back up to the original speed until they get to another car. I don't understand the reason but it happens.

The left lane nazis (or speed-matchers as I call them) that drive alongside another vehicle for miles while traffic stacks up are indeed some of the worst people on earth. Regardless of whether their reasoning is selfish, pseudo-policing, or just ignorance, I wish them all a fiery and horrible demise. My philosophy for driving has always been to be courteous to others and not impede them, regardless of whether they are driving faster or slower than me. I'll stay out of their way if they stay out of mine. But my courteous nature ends when they demonstrate they aren't worthy of it.

Rob

 

[ovrszd]

Definitely human nature to do things like that. I've noticed in my 30+ years of driving (with tons of metro freeways and lots of long distance interstates) that same phenomenon. Many times I've followed someone who is cruising along in the left lane and doing like 5 over the posted when nobody is around them. But they come to another car or truck in the right lane and they end up slowed down and speed matching for quite a while. If/when they get past they rocket back up to the original speed until they get to another car. I don't understand the reason but it happens.

The left lane nazis (or speed-matchers as I call them) that drive alongside another vehicle for miles while traffic stacks up are indeed some of the worst people on earth. Regardless of whether their reasoning is selfish, pseudo-policing, or just ignorance, I wish them all a fiery and horrible demise. My philosophy for driving has always been to be courteous to others and not impede them, regardless of whether they are driving faster or slower than me. I'll stay out of their way if they stay out of mine. But my courteous nature ends when they demonstrate they aren't worthy of it.

Rob

Well stated. I totally agree.

I would add, if those people don't know they are doing that then they should not be driving!!!!

 

[Jstpssng]

Well stated. I totally agree.

I would add, if those people don't know they are doing that then they should not be driving!!!!

If you ride with them an oft heard comment is "I'm doing the speed limit, they don't need to pass"... completely disregarding another law which states "Keep right except to pass." One law we have here which would be hard to enforce, but good to be on the books; Except when passing on the right is permitted, the operator of passed vehicle: B. May not increase speed until completely overtaken by the passing vehicle"

 

[MossRoad]

I like Indiana's law. You have to move out of the left lane for traffic that is moving faster than you... no matter what speed you're driving. So even if you're going 15 over the speed limit, if someone comes up behind you, you have to move to the right. Only exceptions are if you're soon going to be turning left, or inclimate weather, as in, the right lane is flooded or not cleared of snow.

 

[goeduck]

I hate driving in the left lane, when I need to I get the heck outta there ASAP. But I am one that drives at the speed limit, not over. I figure that is why they call it the speed LIMIT.

 

[BigBlue1]

If you ride with them an oft heard comment is "I'm doing the speed limit, they don't need to pass"... completely disregarding another law which states "Keep right except to pass." One law we have here which would be hard to enforce, but good to be on the books; Except when passing on the right is permitted, the operator of passed vehicle: B. May not increase speed until completely overtaken by the passing vehicle"

And that's what differentiates the selfish mindset from my "do not impact others" mindset. They are fine altering the actions of others because they are self-righteous. I strive to do my own thing and let them do theirs. That type of thinking is usually something that permeates much of their life and thought process. Here in the nanny state of MN we experience the effects of that all the time. Someone else dreamed up a rule or restriction they feel is appropriate for others and caused it to become law. To me it is a sign of someone who is not confident in their own ability to make rational decisions.

 

[bcp]

I hate driving in the left lane, when I need to I get the heck outta there ASAP. But I am one that drives at the speed limit, not over. I figure that is why they call it the speed LIMIT.

Doesn't the sign

SPEED LIMIT
70 MPH

mean you aren't supposed to go below 70?



Bruce

 

[buckeyefarmer]

Doesn't the sign

SPEED LIMIT
70 MPH

mean you aren't supposed to go below 70?



Bruce

Yes, and if people can't read they shouldn't be driving. Lol

 

[BigBlue1]

Doesn't the sign

SPEED LIMIT
70 MPH

mean you aren't supposed to go below 70?



Bruce

That's what I thought. Lowest speed you can go unless you're coming to a stop or turning.

 

[rd_macgregor]

That made me think of this:
"


Sitting on the side of the highway waiting to catch speeding drivers, a
State Police Officer sees a car puttering along at 22 MPH.

He thinks to himself, "This driver is just as dangerous as a speeder!" So
he turns on his lights and pulls the driver over.

Approaching the car, he notices that there are five old ladies-two in the
front seat and three in the back-wide eyed and white as ghosts. The
driver, obviously confused, says to him, "Officer, I don't understand, I
was doing exactly the speed limit! What seems to be the problem?"

"Ma'am," the officer replies, "you weren't speeding, but you should know
that driving slower than the speed limit can also be a danger to other
drivers."

"Slower than the speed limit? No sir, I was doing the speed limit
exactly...Twenty- two miles an hour!" the old woman says a bit proudly.

The State Police officer, trying to contain a chuckle explains to her that
"22" was the route number, not the speed limit.

A bit embarrassed, the woman grinned and thanked the officer for pointing
out her error.

"But before I let you go, Ma'am, I have to ask... Is everyone in this car
OK? These women seem awfully shaken and they haven't muttered a single peep
this whole time," the officer asks.

"Oh, they'll be all right in a minute officer. We just got off Route 119."

 

[Jstpssng]

Doesn't the sign

SPEED LIMIT
70 MPH

mean you aren't supposed to go below 70?



Bruce

I always thought that was just a suggestion, and especially not applicable during the early morning hours when normal people are asleep. The Deputy Sheriff who wrote me a ticket about 10 years ago didn't seem to see that way though.