When the grapple is slow, are you also operating the loader or any other hydraulic implement? I'm not familiar with how the Deere is set up, but if you are operating something else at the same time you will be sharing the available hydraulic flow between the two functions rather than dedicating it to one. This will slow down both functions. Also, if you have something in series after the grapple then it can be creating backpressure which will slow down the grapple.
I'd suggest trying to zero in on exactly what you are doing when the grapple is slow, and how it's different from when it's fast. I've found it's real easy to be operating two things without really being conscious of it.