Growing Old With Dignity

reb · Apr 17, 2019

ovrszd said:
Do you guys think the charged cost of care is the same to patients that have the means to pay a high amount versus those that don't?...

It happened years ago, so I don't recall the details. A man I knew had a medical emergency--his kid got severely injured. Medical estimates were through the roof. He searched around and negotiated with a doctor to do the job at a significantly lower price. Before that happened someone discovered the kid was eligible for government assistance. The cost immediately went up to the original estimate.

turnkey4099 · Apr 17, 2019

ovrszd said:
Not sure if this is State driven but, here in Missouri assets transferred out of your name in the last five years can be liened.

Yep, my wife died just before I would have had to go bankrupt. I heard then about withdrawing moneys in anticipation. I had multi thousands salted away. Wouldn't have done me any good.

MickeyDBC · Apr 17, 2019

All I can say is safely hide a couple of pistols where you can get to them when the time comes. I watched my father in law suffer horribly from cancer for the last six months of his life and know he would have ended it if he could have. When the time comes go mow the edge of the pond with the bad tractor and go out on your own terms.

Steppenwolfe · Apr 17, 2019

MickeyDBC said:
All I can say is safely hide a couple of pistols where you can get to them when the time comes. I watched my father in law suffer horribly from cancer for the last six months of his life and know he would have ended it if he could have. When the time comes go mow the edge of the pond with the bad tractor and go out on your own terms.

Probably happens more than you think...

Jstpssng · Apr 17, 2019

I believe that my father chose his time to die, when Alzheimers took away everything that he was. He had worked hard all of his life and fought it for longer than the doctors said it was possible; yet it finally got to where my mother couldn't take care of him and he went into assisted living. He walked in on his own, the day after he turned 83; 3 weeks later when I went to see him he hadn't been out of bed in days. 6 weeks after his admittance he simply stopped eating and passed away 3 days later. He had worked hard all of his life, never asking for help from anybody; although he was the person people called when they needed help. We always knew that he wouIdn't last long in a nursing home.

It's harder to watch the one's that you love get old, than it is to do it ourselves.

atsah · Apr 17, 2019

I have seen people just plain drop dead and others that didn't deserve years of torture, I have seen many stop eating because there was no other way, death can be quick or it can be a living he!!, not much we can about any of it.

Oldoak · Apr 18, 2019

It's harder to watch the one's that you love get old, than it is to do it ourselves.

That's a fact!

My wife and I discussed this more than once and we asked each other, what's going to happen if/when we get that way.

I just say, hopefully we won't know it.