Wife got yellow carded !!!!

[RSKY]

It happened at our grandson's league championship soccer match. There is one girl playing on his indoor soccer team. Seven players on the field for each team and this is the only girl. She is tougher than you would believe and doesn't back down from any of the boys no matter how much bigger they are. She can dribble better than any of the boys and steals the ball several times a game. So this bigger boy on the opponent team took both hands and shoved her as they were fighting for the ball. No call!! My wife stood up, along with all the other parents, and started pointing at the ref and screaming at him. Luckily an indoor soccer field has a metal wall about four feet tall and another four feet of glass with netting above, kinda like a hockey rink, or she would have been on the field. The ref blew his whistle, pointed at my wife, and pulled out a yellow card. The coach had to pull a player off the field and replace him.

I will never let her live it down.

Grandson's team won anyway. Only time out of three matches they beat this team. Kids were soaked in sweat, bruised, and it looked like a couple had cracked shin guards. And these kids are nine year old third graders.

RSKY

 

[RayIN]

It happened at our grandson's league championship soccer match. There is one girl playing on his indoor soccer team. Seven players on the field for each team and this is the only girl. She is tougher than you would believe and doesn't back down from any of the boys no matter how much bigger they are. She can dribble better than any of the boys and steals the ball several times a game. So this bigger boy on the opponent team took both hands and shoved her as they were fighting for the ball. No call!! My wife stood up, along with all the other parents, and started pointing at the ref and screaming at him. Luckily an indoor soccer field has a metal wall about four feet tall and another four feet of glass with netting above, kinda like a hockey rink, or she would have been on the field. The ref blew his whistle, pointed at my wife, and pulled out a yellow card. The coach had to pull a player off the field and replace him.

I will never let her live it down.

Grandson's team won anyway. Only time out of three matches they beat this team. Kids were soaked in sweat, bruised, and it looked like a couple had cracked shin guards. And these kids are nine year old third graders.

RSKY

Look out, they might do the same as they did to football for that age group.

 

[oosik]

My family doctor has told me - several times - the pain in my hands, knees and shoulders is the direct result of the way we played football in JR and SR high school. There ARE those times when the pain makes me wish I had been a spectator.

 

[Hay Dude]

In 20 years of coaching, I got ONE penalty. I’ll never forget it. It was an October Friday night high school football game. There was a hurricane on the way and the winds had really picked up. I keep my charts & plays plastic laminated and in the front kangaroo pocket of my coach’s windbreaker.
Anyway, one of our receivers got mauled by a DB and the ref wouldn’t make the call. I was giving him the business and the wind blew my chart onto the field.
There it was laying on the field. He just waited until I stepped over the white line, then threw a flag for un sportsman like conduct because I stepped out onto the field to pick it up. The play was dead. It was in between plays. The jerk still flagged me. It was because I lit him up for missing an obvious P.I. call.

 

[not2old]

My family doctor has told me - several times - the pain in my hands, knees and shoulders is the direct result of the way we played football in JR and SR high school. There ARE those times when the pain makes me wish I had been a spectator.

My jr. high PE teacher was an Englishman who was visibly annoyed at me for refusing to play rugby. I'd heard too many times "old football injury". Instead I messed up my back high jumping over 6' and landing in a sand pit lower than the take off level.

 

[tradosaurus]

It happened at our grandson's league championship soccer match. There is one girl playing on his indoor soccer team. Seven players on the field for each team and this is the only girl. She is tougher than you would believe and doesn't back down from any of the boys no matter how much bigger they are. She can dribble better than any of the boys and steals the ball several times a game. So this bigger boy on the opponent team took both hands and shoved her as they were fighting for the ball. No call!! My wife stood up, along with all the other parents, and started pointing at the ref and screaming at him. Luckily an indoor soccer field has a metal wall about four feet tall and another four feet of glass with netting above, kinda like a hockey rink, or she would have been on the field. The ref blew his whistle, pointed at my wife, and pulled out a yellow card. The coach had to pull a player off the field and replace him.

I will never let her live it down.

Grandson's team won anyway. Only time out of three matches they beat this team. Kids were soaked in sweat, bruised, and it looked like a couple had cracked shin guards. And these kids are nine year old third graders.

RSKY

If that had been a boy pushed down would your wife have said anything?
Girls on boys teams (below puberty age) is ridiculous as it can be dangerous and gives the girl false confidence.
I remember when my son was QB for varsity football some demented parent thought it was a good idea to get their high school girl on the team. She lasted just a few practices.

 

[Hay Dude]

My son was coaching a high school lacrosse game on Saturday.
It wasn’t his specific team. It was a multi-team (round robin) style tournament and he was watching 2 other teams play while his team had a break.
The game was real chippy, just like almost all lacrosse games. One teams goalie got decleated trying to clear a ball. After the game ended, a group of a few players gathered at midfield and started jawing at each other.
A coach walked briskly towards the group and tried to calmly break it up, urging players to go to their sidelines. He was doing the right thing.
A dad/spectator from the other team ran onto the field and cold cocked the coach, knocking him to the ground.

Now this was no ordinary coach. This coach’s son was one of the greatest college and now pro lacrosse players to ever play the game. He has some clout with the PIAA.

The ass clown who cold cocked him went back to his sideline and just when the police arrived, got into his vehicle to try to run away. He will be caught and prosecuted. Many peeps took videos.

Fans, particularly the loud mouthed moms & dads ruin the game. They did when I was a coach, they did when my son played in HS and college, and they always will.

 

[CalG]

Fans, particularly the loud mouthed moms & dads ruin the game. They did when I was a coach, they did when my son played in HS and college, and they always will.

This is why kids can't have fun PLAYING sports! Assssshat parents living their wanna- be lives, vicariously through children!
STFU and let them play!

 

[Hay Dude]

This is why kids can't have fun PLAYING sports! Assssshat parents living their wanna- be lives, vicariously through children!
STFU and let them play!

I don’t remember that happening so much in my playing days.

 

[Mtsoxfan]

I don’t remember that happening so much in my playing days.

It never happened to me in the late 60's and 70's. If it did happen in other games, it was rare, as we never knew.

 

[NorTracNY]

There are many players that don't want their parents at their sporting events. I wonder why??? I coach club sports and the parents certainly can be worse than their kids. I've heard of MANY kids that don't get a spot on a club team only because of their parents.

 

[jigs_n_fixtures]

I coached "micro" (3 & 4-year-olds) soccer for the city recreation department when I was in my late teens and early twenties. The whole purpose was to get the kids out of the house, and learning to actually run. The whole game would be a cluster of little heads, and occasionally the ball would pop out and they would pursue it across the field. We weren't trying to teach them positioning, strategy, or any real soccer. At that age they are just starting to get the motor skills to run and running while kicking the ball is a real challenge for most of them. The number of parents who would scream and yell at the kids and get upset was astounding.

 

[quicksandfarmer]

I'm a US Soccer Federation licensed ref, I only do youth games, although mostly older than that. Some comments on this story:

First, I do not care at all which team wins. I take pride in getting the calls right. It's almost like playing a video game, you're watching what's happening at high speed and have to process and interpret everything in real time. For older kids, add on the fact that you're running full-tilt for an hour or more. I'd never let on to the players or spectators, but getting a call wrong bothers me the way flubbing a play bothers a player.

In a game like this, there's one of me and 18 players. I only have two eyes, and they point in the same direction. I'm trying to anticipate where the play is going to be and be looking there. I'm also keeping an eye on offside, checking the sidelines to see if someone wants a substitution, looking out for injured players and keeping the time and the score. This play sounds like it happened behind the ref's back, a lot of times on changes of possession the ball changes direction quickly and the ref gets turned around to follow where it's going now. The kid who just lost the ball is in the last place I'd be looking.

How unruly fans are dealt with would be something in the rules of competition, which are set by the league. In the leagues I ref in it's not my responsibility to manage the fans, so I ignore them. It is the responsibility of the coach of each team to manage their fans, and I might remind a coach. I've never had it happen, but if a fan were out of control I have the power to stop the game until order is restored by the teams, or cancel the game if it isn't.

A yellow card to a fan seems over the top to me. Especially with the team being punished. The spirit of the game is that play on the field determines the outcome of the game.

 

[square1]

Our Club ended up posting signs similar to this at each entry to the fields:

 

[square1]

A yellow card to a fan seems over the top to me. Especially with the team being punished. The spirit of the game is that play on the field determines the outcome of the game.

I was a certified ref for several years. I doubt this was a one-off situation. I would have covered repeat offender(s) with the coach after the match once, maybe twice, giving them the opportunity to handle the issue. If the coach/team/club failed to do so, this would indeed be considered as a next step. Fans that can't behave have gotten way out of hand, they feed on each other's poor behavior leading to increasingly serious incidents.

 

[tradosaurus]

My son was coaching a high school lacrosse game on Saturday.
It wasn’t his specific team. It was a multi-team (round robin) style tournament and he was watching 2 other teams play while his team had a break.
The game was real chippy, just like almost all lacrosse games. One teams goalie got decleated trying to clear a ball. After the game ended, a group of a few players gathered at midfield and started jawing at each other.
A coach walked briskly towards the group and tried to calmly break it up, urging players to go to their sidelines. He was doing the right thing.
A dad/spectator from the other team ran onto the field and cold cocked the coach, knocking him to the ground.

Now this was no ordinary coach. This coach’s son was one of the greatest college and now pro lacrosse players to ever play the game. He has some clout with the PIAA.

The ass clown who cold cocked him went back to his sideline and just when the police arrived, got into his vehicle to try to run away. He will be caught and prosecuted. Many peeps took videos.

Fans, particularly the loud mouthed moms & dads ruin the game. They did when I was a coach, they did when my son played in HS and college, and they always will.

I would think loud mouth moms & dads would ruin any chance for their kids to play on a college team? At college level there should be plenty of talent to choose from.

 

[tradosaurus]

It never happened to me in the late 60's and 70's. If it did happen in other games, it was rare, as we never knew.

When I played little league baseball from 1972-1979 my parents would drink alcohol and sit back and enjoy. I do remember in 1981 on JV baseball a Dad cursing out a coach at practice.

 

[Hay Dude]

I would think loud mouth moms & dads would ruin any chance for their kids to play on a college team? At college level there should be plenty of talent to choose from.

You’d be surprised that it doesn’t. I was involved in college recruiting (meeting with college scouts and coaches wanting to recruit high school players I coached) and there’s no attention paid to the parents unless they had outrageous behaviors like arrests. Once you get to the college level, everything changes. Your son/daughter are the focus.
The stories I could tell you about the way some college recruits are treated by college coaches would make you sick.

 

[Mtsoxfan]

You’d be surprised that it doesn’t. I was involved in college recruiting (meeting with college scouts and coaches wanting to recruit high school players I coached) and there’s no attention paid to the parents unless they had outrageous behaviors like arrests. Once you get to the college level, everything changes. Your son/daughter are the focus.
The stories I could tell you about the way some college recruits are treated by college coaches would make you sick.

I wonder how things are/have changed since NIL was introduced. Not sure I agree with it, but colleges are making big bucks on the athletes, so there's that.

 

[Hay Dude]

I wonder how things are/have changed since NIL was introduced. Not sure I agree with it, but colleges are making big bucks on the athletes, so there's that.

Just watched the President of the New York Yankees say that Rutgers University doesn’t have enough money to pay the best athlete recruits and is dipping into their Endowment funds to pay athletes.

I don’t think it changes the way coaches treat the players. You have to remember, for every high visibility Notre Dame, Alabama, or Michigan, there’s small programs like Monmouth, Sienna, or Lafayette. Look at what happened to the gymnastics team girls at Michigan State (Larry Nassar). It goes on more than just there. Once you give your kid to a college coach and they have a scholarship, that coach OWNS your kid. You have little control, unless he is the next Michael Jordan.

Not pointing any fingers at anyone specifically, but based on what I’ve seen other parents and to some degree myself go through, I’ll just say this:

I’m glad there’s a transfer portal.