What is some of your Pet Peeve's

   / What is some of your Pet Peeve's #2,761  
Speaking of peeving about gifts... Simply including them in your family vacations...
Cherished times. I always tell people, "all gifts should be consumable", hoping for good bourbon, beer, or cigars, and not another thing I don't need to clutter up the house. But your idea is much better.
 
   / What is some of your Pet Peeve's #2,762  
Money or lack of it has a way to make generally nice people not nice imo. Maybe he figures you or your wife will gift your son some of the inheritance from what you inherent!from them? On a lighter side I inherited or took possession of my late moms sewing machine man I'm I struggling to use that thing. One frustrating word I've come to dislike is bobbins and will ruin my four letter word free day. 😂 No wonder my wife wants me to learn to use that thing in the cold desolate somewhat soundproof basement.
 
   / What is some of your Pet Peeve's #2,763  
Money or lack of it has a way to make generally nice people not nice imo. Maybe he figures you or your wife will gift your son some of the inheritance from what you inherent!from them? On a lighter side I inherited or took possession of my late moms sewing machine man I'm I struggling to use that thing. One frustrating word I've come to dislike is bobbins and will ruin my four letter word free day. 😂 No wonder my wife wants me to learn to use that thing in the cold desolate somewhat soundproof basement.
As far as I can tell, if I pass before my father or mother, my wife and son will get zero as the will is written. My sister will get 100%. That is not his intension so I'm trying to get him to change it.
 
   / What is some of your Pet Peeve's #2,764  
Since we're on the subject, can I mention something about inheritance? My 83 year old father has a will. Everything goes to my mother if she's still alive when he passes. After that, everything goes to me and my sister 50/50. He has one grandson (my son). I would like him to amend his will to include my son if I pass before my father. Otherwise I believe my son will be left out completely and my sister will get 100% of his estate.

He wants the same but doesn't want to discuss it. He says "everything will work out". It's a touchy subject and I hate bringing it up to him. I don't trust my sister to do the right thing by my son.
We just had this discussion with the lawyer while my mother was rewriting her will. But that doesn't mean I am right. Talk to the lawyer who wrote your will to confirm.
If you predecease, your share will go to your descendent. My brother specifically asked that question as he is battling cancer and concerned about his wife.
 
   / What is some of your Pet Peeve's #2,765  
Not a peeve but something I learned I'm sure some know but it's worth a repeat is get lots of certified copies of death certificates.
 
   / What is some of your Pet Peeve's #2,766  
Does it count as a peeve if its self inflicted? So, we are in the 40 degree temp swing part of the year; 46 in morning; 84 this afternoon. So, every jacket ends up in the work truck... You need it in morning, but take it off by 9 or 10am, and forget about it; till its in 40s next morning, and your wondering where your jacket is....
 
   / What is some of your Pet Peeve's #2,767  
If you predecease, your share will go to your descendent.
According to Google's AI, your lawyer is correct. With no surviving spouse, the default distribution of one's estate is to their children, and the portion of any deceased child will pass to their decendants, the grandchildren of the estate. That is, unless the will specifies otherwse.
 
   / What is some of your Pet Peeve's #2,768  
Check with a lawyer on the specifics of your will and your state. Wording can matter. If the will says "heir apparent" it would go to your kids, not your wife.

Related issue I had settling my son's estate. At the cell phone retail store they insisted I would have to have a death certificate or there would be an early cancellation fee. He passed in California, when I got home to Iowa and received the certificate I called the company. I definitely had an edge to my voice as the whole thing upset me. I asked where I needed to send the certificate and he asked what was going on. I explained the situation and he said "No problem", rattled his keyboard and the account was cancelled with no additional fees. He obviously had some compassion and understanding. I just wonder sometimes who was correct, him or the store in California.


Doug in SW IA
 
   / What is some of your Pet Peeve's #2,769  
Why is it so hard to cancel something when someone close to you passes? I won't bother you with the process I went thru to cancel a deceased loved ones netflix account. I also I don't wish on my worst enemy trying to cash in a loved ones life insurance policy. I could peeve for hrs on trying to take care of a deceased persons affairs. Sry for your loss btw.
Hard enough cancelling your own accounts. I created a Linkedin account when I became self-employed in my early 60s. I quickly learned that the free account was pretty much useless, but they made it very difficult to delete. Don't recall what it was, but there was some hoop I needed to jump thru that wasn't possible to do. 🤬
It's still there, and I occasionally get emails telling me it was "noticed". :rolleyes:

Christmas gifts for only those that still believe in Santa Claus. Apparently, Christmas is one of the most stressful seasons of the year. People that cann,t afford having to buy useless gifts for everyone, because they are forced to exchange gifts. How about a drink, a nice meal together, and no crazy high credit card bills to pay off in January, or for the rest of the year.
My mother was notoriously difficult to buy gifts for, even in her younger years. If she didn't like something she wasn't shy about letting you know. My sisters and I pretty much got around that by taking her to a favorite restaurant for her birthday.

Christmas has always been one of my least favorite holidays...the forced joviality, the expectation that you'll spend time with people you'd rather not, etc. Wife and I generally go into hermit mode for the holidays.
Speaking of peeving about gifts one thing I learned instead of getting your folks a pair of socks or an electronic device they won't or can't figure out how to use without causing mass frustrations on both ends. Simply including them in your family vacations especially winter ones heading south if they live in a snowbelt if they insist on paying for some or all of it just planning it out and including/ helping them is a perfect gift for them in my case. Plus less unused usually unopened clutter ime. 😂
That depends very much on family dynamics. 2 or 3 hours is plenty for me. Not that there's any animosity, just that I'm a fairly private person and other than my wife there really isn't anyone I'd want to spend more than that amount of time with at one stretch. A vacation with others would be very stressful.

The first year one woman asked for toilet paper. Say what you want but I can't comprehend needing that so badly that you would ask for it that way. Along with some of her other requests she got toilet paper... Everybody there brought at least a couple of rolls. :D
Not very elegant, but at least it's a gift you know she'll use.

As far as I can tell, if I pass before my father or mother, my wife and son will get zero as the will is written. My sister will get 100%. That is not his intension so I'm trying to get him to change it.
My mother's will was written that way...everything to be divided equally between surviving children. My brother pre-deceased her, so his widow got nothing. She had informally stated that she wanted to leave her car to my niece (her sole grandchild), my sisters and I had to specifically relinquish claim to it since she wasn't a beneficiary in the will. Niece did take quite a few of my mother's possessions, all of us were OK with it.
My brother didn't have any children so it was a moot point, but I'm sure my sisters and I would have set aside something for them if he did, even if it wasn't a full share.
 
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   / What is some of your Pet Peeve's #2,770  
Related issue I had settling my son's estate. At the cell phone retail store they insisted I would have to have a death certificate or there would be an early cancellation fee. He passed in California, when I got home to Iowa and received the certificate I called the company. I definitely had an edge to my voice as the whole thing upset me. I asked where I needed to send the certificate and he asked what was going on. I explained the situation and he said "No problem", rattled his keyboard and the account was cancelled with no additional fees. He obviously had some compassion and understanding. I just wonder sometimes who was correct, him or the store in California.
It probably WAS company policy (and for good reason), but clearly not strictly enforced. A personal appeal to the right person can often work wonders.
 

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