Complete Turf Care
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- Mar 31, 2013
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- South Louisiana
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- 2022 Kubota Grand L6060 (no loader), 2017 Kubota Grand L6060, 2011 Kubota L5740 HSTC-3, 1997 Kubota M4700
No one can understand dementia until you have to deal with it. My mom had it and she passed away in Feb. 2021.Sorry to hear that so many of you have gone through this, or are going through it now. We're beginning to wonder if my dad will need some help in the future. He's been dealing with Dementia for a few years now and for the most part, seems to be doing OK. But then he gets an idea in his head that's completely wacky. My wife has PhD in nursing, so she goes to most of his appointments with him. He lies to his doctors. Then he lies to her, me and my mom about what the doctors told him. He is constantly sneaking around, looking for a way to trick us that he's not getting worse. Sadly, he's getting a lot worse. This past week, he has decided that he wants to drive again, so it's non stop issue of how he can get his license back. Worse part is when he has a tantrum about my wife being mean to him and lying about his care, or not knowing anything about what she is talking about. None of us want to hurt his feelings, but his anger comes out of nowhere and it's all from something he makes up from a lie or half truth that his invisible friend told him. He can't say where he gets his ideas, but we catch him talking to himself all the time, so we blame his invisible friend. He's never been violent, but he's never been this dishonest before either. Mostly I feel sorry for my mon in having to deal with him. Dad will be 87 next month. Mom is 80.
I joined a dementia support group on Facebook and it helped me to understand it better and deal with it better. One thing that sometimes happens with dementia is they will lie about the ones who care for them the most. For example, if someone sees the patient rarely, they patient will tell them horrible things about those that care for them on a regular basis. This can be devastating to the regular caregiver.
Lucky for me, my mom never did this. In fact, she knew who I was until about 2 weeks before she passed. She did not know any of my 5 siblings way before that. But, also lucky for me, I was able to visit her much more often than my siblings were able to.