Proposed update to front porch forum rules

[Hay Dude]

I was taught to treat others with respect. I also was taught that I am responsible for my actions not the actions of others. The focus unfortunately is more on rights instead of responsibility.

However, I will treat you with respect and you can treat me with disrespect. It doesn’t bother me in the least.

So was I! But unfortunately, many were not. Society is much coarser than it used to be. It would have to be moderated carefully for those who just attack you because of what brand of truck or tractor you drive, the engine configuration you prefer, the teams you like, “Richard” being called “D*ck”, etc.
Its just going to get carried away and turn into a circus without moderation.
I would prefer it weren’t that way, but it is.

 

[sea2summit]

That's not true. Elements in our society might have that agenda. But society doesn't.

Not sure if that’s meant to be funny, but responding that way to that post made me laugh.

 

[sea2summit]

I don't understand the need to control. Whatever for? It's just nothing more than a good old bar fight except that nobody gets physically hurt. It's seems that we have become pansies who can't even deal with a harsh word let alone a pillow fight.

Well when you own the bar you have to pick up the pieces, get rid of problem customers, then attract new customers. It’s a hard line between letting the boys be boys and keeping an establishment where folks want to come in and have a $5 beer.

 

[sea2summit]

So was I! But unfortunately, many were not. Society is much coarser than it used to be. It would have to be moderated carefully for those who just attack you because of what brand of truck or tractor you drive, the engine configuration you prefer, the teams you like, etc.
I would prefer it weren’t that way, but it is.

Well if you’d just give me that big red tractor for disposal you wouldn’t get made fun of for it.

 

[ovrszd]

So was I! But unfortunately, many were not. Society is much coarser than it used to be. It would have to be moderated carefully for those who just attack you because of what brand of truck or tractor you drive, the engine configuration you prefer, the teams you like, “Richard” being called “D*ck”, etc.
Its just going to get carried away and turn into a circus without moderation.
I would prefer it weren’t that way, but it is.

How about if I call you Hay ***** rather than Hay Dude, is that okay?

 

[Torvy]

Why not just treat each other with respect even if you know they are wrong? Then it would be easy for someone to moderate.

Because some of those @#$$^ drive the wrong color tractor...and doggone it, they need to be put in their place! (This is me attempting humor)

I have friends with whom biting comments are part of our banter. Others may see it as disrespectful, but if they said something to us in public, we would tell them to mind their own business. If the person to whom the comment is directed doesn't care, why should anyone else?

Other friends don't play that way and comments are more benign, if a tad bland.

We used to have a phrase about sticks and stones, but that no longer seems to apply either.

My long-winded point here is that some of us treat each other as friends. That treatment may not look the same depending on the friendship. If the complainer is not the person to whom the comment is directed, just move on. At the same time, if the complainer is that object of the comment, send a PM or reply to the author first. It may be just the two have different communication styles. Ultimately, be nice, but don't get worked up about others.

 

[ovrszd]

Not sure if that’s meant to be funny, but responding that way to that post made me laugh.

Initial response to my theory is humor.

But if considered on a personal level it becomes apparent that our society is determined by our personal actions. We as a society have forgotten that. Personal accountability is lacking in our society today. Sad.

 

[sea2summit]

Initial response to my theory is humor.

But if considered on a personal level it becomes apparent that our society is determined by our personal actions. We as a society have forgotten that. Personal accountability is lacking in our society today. Sad.

It is a absolutely a personal responsibility and choice in my opinion. But, also in my opinion, the societal influences outside of religious and family inputs are nearly completely counter to that. Troubling for my generation but scary for the next generation…also in my opinion.

 

[sree251]

However, I will treat you with respect and you can treat me with disrespect. It doesn’t bother me in the least.

If it doesn't bother you, then you are emotionally stable. The need for moderation is to protect the emotionally unstable. So, in order to cater to the the weak, this forum must moderate the strong.

It's no fun going to a moderated bar where folks are only allowed milk just because some people can't handle a shot of good whiskey.

 

[sea2summit]

Because some of those @#$$^ drive the wrong color tractor...and doggone it, they need to be put in their place! (This is me attempting humor)

I have friends with whom biting comments are part of our banter. Others may see it as disrespectful, but if they said something to us in public, we would tell them to mind their own business. If the person to whom the comment is directed doesn't care, why should anyone else?

Other friends don't play that way and comments are more benign, if a tad bland.

We used to have a phrase about sticks and stones, but that no longer seems to apply either.

My long-winded point here is that some of us treat each other as friends. That treatment may not look the same depending on the friendship. If the complainer is not the person to whom the comment is directed, just move on. At the same time, if the complainer is that object of the comment, send a PM or reply to the author first. It may be just the two have different communication styles. Ultimately, be nice, but don't get worked up about others.

It’s hard to judge on forums, just the other day on this forum I responded with “xxxx go home your drunk” and apparently that was not okay because he doesn’t drink. Ohh well.