ACMan, as Murph pointed out, your problem is not pressure from your tractor-side quick-connects. It's on the loader side. I connect to my tractor with the tractor running most of the time these days. As long as you shut it off and wiggle the joystick, there should be absolutely no pressure on the tractor side.
On the loader, sometimes if it's in the sun, the pressures can be tremendous. I had hoses get so much pressure that they unfolded from where I had them stowed. I actually bradded the ends of the quick-connect tips try to get pressure to release. It you don't get the pressure off with light tapping, don't do it hard like I did. Instead, just loosen the connections at the quick-connects and release some of the pressure. It can be very high, so expect some fluid and have a rag handy.
The only way I know of keeping this from happening is to get two female quick connect adapters and put them into your loader, one on the arms and one on the curl circuits. That way when pressure builds while the loader is disconnected, it can bleed out of the connectors. You'll have to put something under them to catch the drip, but that's better than struggling everytime you have to reconnect.