Given that you and your wife are both young, you plan on doing it when the temps are cool, then you might as well give the 12x12 pad a try. It's not rocket science, and the basics are pretty simple. Try not to over think it, and realize that once you start, you cannot quit until it's done.
The dryer you mix it, the stronger it is and the less cracking you will have. The wetter you mix it, the easier it spreads and levels. Most crews will try to mix it really wet so they can spread it easier. They get away with it all the time because even when mixed too wet, it's usually plenty strong for most things in a house, and the areas that need the extra strength, like where the load bearing walls are, is a lot thicker.
Do not use wire, it's impossible to walk on it and keep it in the middle of the pad. Rebar is more money and more work, but it's spaced far enough apart that you can walk between it and not kick it off the chairs. It needs to be held up off of the ground with something. Plastic chairs are the most common thing used for this. Normal spacing of rebar is 24 inches for most applications. I'm adding to my porch right now and I'm going with 16 inches because of concerns with tying it to a pool I'm building and the existing porch. Overkill never hurt anything except my pocket book, and for this project, it's only $20 more in rebar.
Staging is a big deal. I looked at a concrete calculator and it said you need 130 60 pound sacks for a 4 inch 12x12 pad. I would buy 150 because it's very hard to get that pad perfectly flat, and not need more. Have your mixer and wheelbarrow right next to the pad. Pour into the pad as long as you can from the mixer, then use the wheelbarrow after that. When I buy a lot of concrete sacks, I put them on my trailer by the pallet. I can carry two pallets at a time, and I position the trailer right next to the mixer. The closer the better!!!!!
Get a scree board longer then your forms. Find a perfectly straight 2x6 and cut it down to 14ft. You want it to be able to rest on the forms at both sides. When screeing the concrete, I like to roll it, and also sort of slide it side to side while pulling it back. When you find a low spot, fill it right away, and go over that area again. With just the two of you, troweling with a hand trowel what you scree right away will help with the finish work, but also use a pole trowel as often as possible. Pros go over the concrete for hours after it's poured. It will start to harden on you, and having a 3x3 foot piece of plywood to kneel on will alloy you to work the middle area if you need to.
Watch youtube videos if any of this doesn't make sense to you.
Get everything in position the day before you start.
Start mixing first thing in the morning with nothing else to do the rest of the day. It wont take all day, but when you are done, you will be DONE!!!!