Parents with dementia, how dealing with that has gone.

   / Parents with dementia, how dealing with that has gone.
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It also gives pause for thought if a parent has dementia is this in my future?

Add to that family dynamics of care and I’ve seen some amazing situations to total abandonment to the State for care…

I think there isn’t a person that does not know someone affected.
Yes but I have 2 sisters who could not admit to, or see, our dad had devolved it. Last time I was home, he didn't recognize me while they said "he's fine!".
 
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He was put on hospice so the volume of care and help he gets is more, much more. He can't get out of bed or put his clothing on etc, etc. He's now back in assisted living and got a hospital type bed there. My spouse doesn't think he'll be with us very long. His dementia has progressed.
 
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He was put on hospice so the volume of care and help he gets is more, much more. He can't get out of bed or put his clothing on etc, etc. He's now back in assisted living and got a hospital type bed there. My spouse doesn't think he'll be with us very long. His dementia has progressed.
We went through this several years ago with my parents. Hospice was a huge help. My dad did not have severe dementia, but he could not eat or talk towards the end. I really believe he made the decision that he had had enough of this life and was ready to go. And we told him many times that it was okay for him to go. We assured him that mom would be well taken care of, which was one of his biggest concerns, because she had dementia.

He lasted 11 days. I will say a prayer for your family.
 
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Just went through this a few months back with my Dad, knowing it's soon still doesn't make it easier.
Our prayers for a peaceful journey and sorry it is happening.
 
   / Parents with dementia, how dealing with that has gone. #467  
My dad did not have severe dementia, but he could not eat or talk towards the end. I really believe he made the decision that he had had enough of this life and was ready to go.
Similar here. Dad's throat was damaged by polio in 1951. By Y2K he couldn't swallow so a feeding tube was put in near his navel. (As well, he had a lifetime of normal mobility but general weakness while using wrong muscles in place of polio-damaged muscles). He was otherwise in his right mind and capable of living alone, going shopping, etc. After the feeding tube and baby food down a funnel, he said he was a walking dead man. At that point, age 88, he told me life was no longer worth living and he wanted to go to Oregon where assisted death is legal. But instead he had a stroke then died in the hospital within 24 hours. I think that's what he would have wanted if he could plan his end of life.

Folks, get your vaccinations. I watched his lifetime of the bad luck of catching polio just before the first vaccine was available. His year in an Iron Lung (hospitalized in a pressurized cylinder) then a lifetime of limited muscles isn't what anyone wants. In fact his brother fared worse. Lifetime in a wheelchair and needed to support one hand with the other to lift a coffee mug. Don't listen to the anti-vaxxers!
 
   / Parents with dementia, how dealing with that has gone.
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Similar here. Dad's throat was damaged by polio in 1951. By Y2K he couldn't swallow so a feeding tube was put in near his navel. (As well, he had a lifetime of normal mobility but general weakness while using wrong muscles in place of polio-damaged muscles). He was otherwise in his right mind and capable of living alone, going shopping, etc. After the feeding tube and baby food down a funnel, he said he was a walking dead man. At that point, age 88, he told me life was no longer worth living and he wanted to go to Oregon where assisted death is legal. But instead he had a stroke then died in the hospital within 24 hours. I think that's what he would have wanted if he could plan his end of life.

Folks, get your vaccinations. I watched his lifetime of the bad luck of catching polio just before the first vaccine was available. His year in an Iron Lung (hospitalized in a pressurized cylinder) then a lifetime of limited muscles isn't what anyone wants. In fact his brother fared worse. Lifetime in a wheelchair and needed to support one hand with the other to lift a coffee mug. Don't listen to the anti-vaxxers!
Anti-vaxers seem to not do well learning history. 😥
 
   / Parents with dementia, how dealing with that has gone.
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Father-in-law with puppy. Just got home last night.
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