I don’t see where there’s excess pressure on the 3 point arms. Unless you hit a frozen snow bank, but then again, the 3 point arms will feel that even if you had the blower lowered.
It is true that 3 point arms are designed to pull instead of push.
To me, it seems that manufacturers don’t want you transmitting a lot of power (blowing snow) through sharply angled u-joints. This makes sense. Thus they say it’s ok to leave blower running when driving forward. I think turning PTO repeatedly on and off is more wear and tear than running a u-joint at a sharp angle with no load on it. It’s definitely a trade-off, balance.
Regarding blowing snow with sharp angle, (IMHO) it depends on how much load you want to put on the u-joint. If your rpms are reduced, and the snow is light, and your speed is slow, duration short,...again, it’s a trade off. There’s no absolutes.