UPDATE: Ladies and gentlemen, this is one of the most difficult things I've had to do. I'm embarassed and ashamed.
The source of the problem was discovered and it had nothing to do with the hydraulic hose tips. I have the third hydraulic valve on the back of the tractor. I also installed the Deere third function kit that couples the third function (rear) to the mid hydraulic manifold with a set of quick couplers. This is what I use to operate the loader mounted grapple. The two hydraulic hoses that extend to the manifold at the middle of the tractor are mounted at the top of the manifold, side by side. So I assumed, wrongly of course, that the loader curl hoses and loader lift hoses were side by side as well. They are not. The two are stacked one on top of the other. So I was only supplying oil to one side of the cylinder on the splitter with no way for the oil to return. I noticed that the loader curl cylinders were trying to move a little when I was trying to operate the stump grinder lift cylinder. I couldn't see how that was possible if the hoses were unhooked to the curl cylinder.
SO, after a few choice words I switched out the hoses and problem solved. I had the operators manual in the shed but no reading glasses close. So as best I could I found the section where it showed the hose hookup and it seemed to suggest that the solution was there all along, although I believe Deere could have a better picture with greater detail. The picture is rather dark.
So the excuse I am going to use to lessen the embarassment is the side by side location of the third function hoses and the top to bottom on the other two functions. It probably won't buy me much sympathy here but its all I have.
Thanks for the suggestions and the all of the effort by you folks. I think I will keep quiet for a little while. Does anyone know how I go about chaning my user name?