Help! Need advice for a bad pet situation...

[dieselsmoke1]

The Bride's father's mixed breed mutt has stayed loyally by his side for 17 years. Her Mom called me tonite, the little fellow is in bad shape, about to pass on. Dad can't bear to hurt him and can't stand to see him suffer any longer. I've been asked to intervene /forums/images/graemlins/frown.gif /forums/images/graemlins/frown.gif

I can't go physically harm Bandit. I haven't got it in me and her Dad will never forgive. I don't think he'll make it through tomorrow. Does anyone know of a human way to "let a puppy go to sleep"?

Thanks

EW

 

[MikePA]

Taking the dog to the vet to be put to sleep is not an option? /forums/images/graemlins/frown.gif

 

[MossRoad]

The humane thing to do is take it to the Vet and have it put down. I've done it to three dogs in my life. It was very hard, but had to be done. I actually felt better after having it done, because the animals were starting to suffer. The Vets are very nice, professional and will help you through it. Hope this helps. Sorry for your situation. /forums/images/graemlins/frown.gif

 

[dieselsmoke1]

yea......think I'll call the vet and see if he'll come in tonite. don't want to have to deal with this and 20 folks tomorrow.

 

[Golfgar4]

Years ago, my mothers dog became very ill. The vet explained that she had to be put down. Mom couldn't handle it, so she asked me to do it.

This was very hard, because even though I had been gone from home for a number of years, Mom had gotten Sam when I had been Junior High School, so I had kind of grown up with her.

Anyway, I took her to the vet and the whole time on the way over, she was trembling and scared. As soon as I walked in the room with the vet and he took her from my arms, you could see Sam quiet down and relax. As she lay there, while the vet administered the shot, I stroked Sam and talked to her. And I'm telling you, she was GRATEFUL. I could see it in her eyes. I just knew that she knew exactly what was happening, and she was happy that I was there with her. I am absolutely convinced that she was happy to not be suffering anymore.

I hope it goes that way for you. It's a hard thing to do, but remember that you're saving Bandit from suffering. And he'll probably show you somehow that he understands and that's it's alright.

Good luck.

 

[TresCrows]

Call the dogs veternarian, most will make a house visit for such things. When I had my other dogs, long gone, the vet we picked I told him up front that when the time came he would come and send them on at their HOME, not a cold doctors office. Any that did not agree, we never went back. My current situation is that my neighbor is a vet and she has become my pups adopted second moma. I hope that time is still aways off but when it comes, it will be done in their home.
I suggest you get a vet to come to the house right away regardless of the cost, it will be worth it to your father in law years from now when he remembers back and knows he did the right thing when he said good-bye to his life long friend. You do not get a second chance--do it right. J

 

[dieselsmoke1]

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TresCrows,

Hadn't thought of that option. Definitely a better plan. Less traumatic on all involved including Bandit.

Didn't work out last night. Will try this today.

Thanks

 

[Junkman]

This will be one of the most difficult thing that you will ever be asked to do. Hopefully the pets veterinarian will make the house call. It will be important to know that after euthanasia, that the kidneys will empty and that it will be necessary to have some cloths to clean up the area. I have been through this before unfortunately and I know exactly what you and your family are going through. If you are going to inter the pet on the grounds, it will help if you make these preparations ahead of time. Usually a hole of 4 to 5 feet will be of sufficient depth. Take a measurement from two points to mark the grave for future reference. There is another thread that might help to give you some more information located here......
Hopefully there is a picture of the pet in the home that you can have framed and present to your father in law at a future date. I am certain that he would want to have one hanging on the wall.
KenNTx posted this for me a while ago and I would like to share it with you in your time of need.... You and your family have my heart felt sympathy........ Peace be with you and your family.....It is with tears in my eyes that I post the following.... Paul the Junkman


Dear Master,
You have been my teacher, my friend and most beloved companion. I was like your child, totally dependent on you for all my needs. But I never grew up and moved away as children do, I just grew to love and need you more each day, each month, each year.
I never went hungry because you gave me dinner and gave me water each day. When the weather was bad I found comfort in the warmth and safety of your home. I delighted you by learning tricks, but what you may not have realized is that I loved learning from you because I lived to please you.
The touch of your hand stroking my fur made my life worthwhile. Though I barked at noises in the night, the postman's footsteps and the ringing of the doorbell; the voice of my master was the one sound that I cherished most. Your moods became my moods. When you were sad or lonely, I nuzzled closer to comfort you .
There were times when you became upset with me because I soiled the carpet, chewed on a piece of furniture, or barked too much. But do not feel bad about those times when you scolded me - I needed to learn right from wrong, and I always understood when things weren't going your way or when you'd had an unpleasant day at work. There is no need for you to harbor guilt or remorse on my behalf.
You loved me and blessed me with more happiness than most animals will ever know. Instead of wondering what you could have done differently, remember the funny things I did and the happy times we shared together. Though it is hard for you to understand, I was ready to pass on from this life.
Our time together was short, but if we'd had fifty years together, you still would have not been ready for me to leave.
So please, Master, share your life with others. Do not refuse the opportunity to give another lucky pet the love you have given me. No other animal will ever take my place in your heart, but there is another one who needs you and will grow to love you as much as I did.
I am now at peace and no longer feel pain. You gave me a wonderful home and a happy existence on this earth. So please be happy - go on with your life and give your love to others.
Although I no longer share your world, I will always live in your heart, and you in mine.
Farewell, Dear Master.

 

[dieselsmoke1]

Thanks Junkman. Very touching post.

The Vet did come out. Glad that was suggested. Little fella's suffering is over.

Dad says he doesn't want another dog. I hope a little time will change his mind. Think I'll print your post for him to read.

 

[Junkman]

I know all too well the hurt that he is going through... My first one died when I was in the hospital and I left against doctors orders to take her home to bury her and I returned a few hours later. It was 6 weeks after that I was released from the hospital and the first thing that I did was to go looking for another puppy.... It took 4 months before I found the breed that I wanted, and a year after that, I was given a mate for her. Those two were inseparable, but one day our female got sick and died a couple of weeks later. We had adopted a Greyhound right around the same time, so we had 2 then 3 then 2 dogs at the time. I will never be without a dog or two as long as I can handle them. Give your father in law a couple of weeks and I am sure that he will want another dog in his life... If he is getting on in years, try to find him a smaller dog because it will be easier for him and small dogs live longer than large dogs.... Don't forget the picture for Christmas... It will bring tears to his eyes, but he will love you for it.. I know.... see attached..... This picture, my wife had arranged to be taken right before the females surgery when they first found the tumor, for fear that she wouldn't survive very long... She lived for another 3 years and died of another disease. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't look at the pictures of all the dogs and fondly remember them ...