I think you had the right handgun but you sold it. It was the 357. A double action wheel gun is the way to go for most inexperienced shooters. Its just simple. If it is loaded, pull the trigger, it goes bang.
A 357 is the perfect weapon if you don't know how the person will handle recoil. You can put in soft shooting 38s, very likely go with some 38+s and if they can handle the recoil drop in some 357s. Lots of options in one package. And cheaper.
The autoloaders can be harder to handle especially for women with small hands. My wife took quite a while to operate the slide and I have seen it in others as well.
Most POlice shootings are under 7 yards with 2-3 rounds. The need for high capacity does not happen often, the need is overblown and speedloaders/magazines work.
What is longest "path" you have in your house? That would be the farthest she would have to shoot while you are away.
Having said to get a wheel gun. I don't like them.


No, real reason, I just LIKE autoloaders.

But for some reason I want that big frame SW 45ish handcannon they came out with. I have not earthly reason for that danged thing but for some reason I want that handcannon. But not the .50 SW.
The only thing bad I can really say about wheelguns is that if they jam. They jam. And bad. I have only seen in twice and that was with the same cheap ammo in the same 357. Somehow the bullet lodged between the barrel and cylinder. This was very bad. In a firefight it would get one killed. On the range it was bad because all of the energy in the bullet was transferred to the cylinder as heat. And it was hot. And there where five more rounds in the cylinder. I backed off the range...
So does this mean don't get a wheel gun? No. Just don't buy cheap a...ed ammo.



Go get a 357 she can hold comfortably and go from there. That is most important for the auto loader or the wheel gun. She has to be able to hold the handgun comfortably.
Later,
Dan