David- I am happy that things turned out for you and everyone managed to have a relatively good time in the process.
That does not surprise me. My bud had one that had one of those Tundra out of control engine high RPM surge glitches in a school parking lot = He was lucky he only seriously damaged a heavy duty fence. His Tundra was in pretty decent shape for the mishap..... Once the cosmetics were fixed, it ran fine, and he traded it in immediately.
I was in the middle of nowhere in the Adirondacks and my Tundra would not start, but every idiot light was flashing. I saw icons that I never saw before.

I remember that trac light and 4LO flashing I called a dealership 40 miles away and managed to get a really helpful service tech. There is a "secret button" hidden under the dash than can reset settings back to defaults. There was a secret sequence of starting and pressing and pressing-repressing that button and it cleared things up. There are 100's of pages dedicated to properly attaching infant/children car seats, and somewhere buried in the owner's manual a sentence or two about the "secret rest button." The button is well hidden; I'll never find that info again.