Why did everything shut down in 2000?
Dad became quite sick after a brief remission after Chemo and Radiation… for us everything shut down at the business and mom a career RN and myself focus was caring for dad… he passed December 2000 not living long enough to see his grandchildren…
In 2023 mom passed away after a long battle with dementia… everyone said to find a placement and then Covid changed life as we knew it… mom was not able to understand why everything changed… why could no longer visit with cherished neighbors… why no one came to visit… no contact with loved ones and as a daily attendee of Catholic Mass… no more mass…
Can’t tell you how many times it was simpler for me to drive her to the locked church and empty convent and rectory so she could try every locked door looking for answers.
Dad was fully aware of everything going on and never wished to burden anyone and mom was totally unaware of world events… only that life isn’t right.
That said, she never complained and always grateful for any kindness.
Those placements places people suggested experienced high Covid mortality… national news stuff and then about 10-12k per month with no visiting policy.
Mom did agree to go to a facility on one condition being daily Catholic Mass… no such place exists in the Greater SF Bay Area and several Diocese inquiries confirmed.
Fresno CA would be the closest at some distance plus no visitors.
When you step into the roll of caregiver of someone terminal or with Dementia everything else basically stops as you become 100% focused…
An interesting observation is hearing if there is anything you need just let us know and the biggest surprise to me is Mom for decades was a Eucharistic minister visiting shut ins and infirmed of the parish found she was on her own during the Pandenic years.
I requested last rites from her parish of 54 years and was referred elsewhere.
When she was laid to rest I reached out to the former pastor who had been reassigned 20 years prior and he said absolutely will be there and refused any compensation for travel or time saying mom was a true inspiration…
TBN was one of my strengths and the kindness of members having walked the same path helped me tremendously and I am grateful for both online posts and the many PM’s received.