College drop out blues

[pennwalk]

We recently found out that our nephew dropped out of college. Can you imagine a worse time to be out on the street? Of course he moved back with his mom. We were kind of stunned can you imagine having to move home? We have always thought it was healthier for kids to strike out on their own. I think his mom is glad to have him back. I'm sure she will be cooking for him, letting him use the car, washing his laundry. My first thought was that he should join the Army. But my wife says his mom will never let him. So my question is do you guys have any thoughts for a young guy who needs a little time to grow up?

Chris

 

[Travelover]

If he can attend a community college and live at home it will cost less and might let him grow up a little. Maybe he can find a part time job, too, which can give him some experience and direction.

 

[tommu56]

We recently found out that our nephew dropped out of college. Can you imagine a worse time to be out on the street? Of course he moved back with his mom. We were kind of stunned can you imagine having to move home? We have always thought it was healthier for kids to strike out on their own. I think his mom is glad to have him back. I'm sure she will be cooking for him, letting him use the car, washing his laundry. My first thought was that he should join the Army. But my wife says his mom will never let him. So my question is do you guys have any thoughts for a young guy who needs a little time to grow up?

Chris

I woulden't suggest thje army if he cant commit to school he will be miserable there there its a lot harder to quit.

tom

 

[beenthere]

May be that his Mom is the problem, and until she sees it, no one else can make the child grow up.
This mentality of striking out on your own, needs to be instilled in the kids mind long before now IMO.

Can't do his thinking for him - - unless he has come to you for your sage advice.

 

[dave1949]

Kids are all different. Nothing shocking there

I think he should be responsible to have a job if he is out of school, I know, good luck with that at the moment. Living at home is not so much the issue as earning some income IMO.

It is bad economic cycle timing on his part to drop out. Maybe he wasn't doing well academically, or not studying something he finds interesting. No point in paying for a degree you will not use in the future if that is the issue.

If he is freshman or sophomore, he has been spending a lot of his class time in required areas, not his major, that can be very discouraging and like a gerbil on the wheel. To get through college if you don't enjoy being a student can be tough. He may decide after working some deadend crappy jobs that if he is to escape that fate; he has to put his head down and grind it out, jump through all the required hoops. I know I did
Dave.

 

[jayste]

I woulden't suggest thje army if he cant commit to school he will be miserable there there its a lot harder to quit.

tom

And he won't like his new "Mommy"!

 

[kossetx]

The Navy? Worked for me.

 

[buckeyefarmer]

Not everyone is ready for college right out of HS. some need a dose of reality, before they wise up. Hopefully mom will cut the apron strings.
I know of at least two in this same position. Mom did everything for them, even bought them a house to live in at college. Then one of them dropped out 1 week before semester finals, and moved back home.

 

[Willl]

So my question is do you guys have any thoughts for a young guy who needs a little time to grow up?

I would suggest he/they grow up and keep their nose out of other peoples business.

 

[WH401]

Not everyone is cut out for college. If you don't want to be there than there's no use putting yourself through it. It'll just be a waste of time and money, plain and simple.

What's wrong with him moving back in with his mother? Is your nephew the type to sit around all day and do nothing? or is he going to look for a job and help out around the house? If he's more the latter than I see no problem with his mom cooking or doing the laundry. How many grown married men can really say they do all the cooking and the laundry in their house?, I doubt many.

The army is a big step and a life changing choice, for good or bad. But it's something he needs to decide and think about on his own.