I have two stories to relay... your experiences and situation may differ.
My dad, age 89, had bad cataracts in both eyes... couldn't see worth a damm... doctor told him about the surgery and its risks and possible outcomes.. dad was reluctant but went agreed to have an eye done. I argued with the doctor.. doctor wanted to do the worst eye first. I wanted to do the best eye first. Doctor won, did worst eye, dad still can't see ... removing the cataract disclosed macular degeneration, so the situation is hopeless and will only get worse. Doctor reminded dad he had said "there can be numerous reasons for your vision difficulties and we won't know exactly until we do the cataract surgery, but I know that as a minimum you need the cataract removed to get improved sight." Dad now thinks the doctor was a shyster, did nothing and pocketed the money. More importantly, he refuses to have the cataract in his better eye worked on... so, now at age 94 he says pass the potatoes when rice is on the table... sees colors and lumps, can't read without extreme magnification and always carries a flashlight everywhere he goes, day and night, to light up his visual space.
I still believe that a better choice would have been to do the better eye first.
Myself, I've been diagnosed with the beginnings of cataracts, both eyes, but still have what I consider good vision although corrected with trifocal glasses. I, too, was recommended to have a lens replacement in the near term.
I researched the same 3 lens options you have... and also discovered that some people are doing different focal lengths for each eye with success. I also focused on the side effects that are reported.
Two problems were identified... selecting a focal length.... some people discovered that what they got wasn't right for their life style and still had to carry glasses for some activities.
More importantly, for night driving, people reported halos and glare problems.. and my recollection seems to be that it was a significant percentage of people... some said that they "got used to it" after a while.
Anyway, I did a LOT of reading on the net.. discovered that there are numerous discussion groups, etc. where experiences and scientific study results are reported. My net was that people who were having vision difficulties that were ALREADY impairing their lifestyle were the happiest and reported best results. Others who were in the initial stages of problems seemd to be more negative about the ressults for them and complications from it.
My final decision was that my research led me to understand that this area of vision improvement has GREATLY improved in the last 10 years and that huge strides are still occuring. Thus, I decided to wait for a later date since I am now corrected to 20-20 with glasses and the cataracts are just beginning. I am the driver for two family members as well as my parents, age 91 and 94. If I get a problem, things go south really fast.
In my opinion, I could find no combination of lens, focal length, reduced dry eye risk, halo/glare risk, etc. that presented me with a risk/benefit ratio that I wanted to proceed with.
Although my eyes are currently not great, I've worn glasses since 4th grade and know how to deal with them. I had hoped to find a way to toss the glasses in all circumstances, avoid the sweat and fog up problems and only need to wear sunglasses. For me, the technology is ALMOST there, but not quite.
