Building a Shoe Barn

[fried1765]

Ok, since you're divvying out details, did you learn about all these 8 flings all at 1 time?

YUP!
That is what brought about the divorce.
"flings"? I love it.
4 of the "flings" were with people I believed to be my friends.
Sorry: No more info will be forthcoming on this subject.
Done !!!!

 

[GeneV]

Flings, affairs, semantics. Your wife was an a-hole, good riddance then.

 

[tradosaurus]

Something tells me youæ±*e divorced.....and are still wonder why?

Try again, hoss.

32 years married, 9 kids with the same woman, and I wear the pants in the family.

 

[BrokenTrack]

I am a Christian, but I have been divorced, but luckily I am saved by grace so I have been forgiven for that (and many, many other sins). :thumbsup:

I never did cheat on my wife, but after some time to reflect, I do realize why my ex-wife did. It was not about sex, it never is, it is about feeling wanted, and I did not always provided that for her. But, she too is forgiven; by God and me as well.

As for who is right or wrong. My Great Grandfather was a Judge, and I think he said it best. "The truth usually lies somewhere in the middle of the two sides."

As for shoes: yeah 92 pairs is kind of excessive. However, she probably thinks the same thing about my tools. As my Great-Grandfather used to say, "The truth usually lies somewhere in the middle of the two sides." :thumbsup:

 

[fried1765]

Try again, hoss.

32 years married, 9 kids with the same woman, and I wear the pants in the family.

YES ++++++++++

 

[BrokenTrack]

Try again, hoss.

32 years married, 9 kids with the same woman, and I wear the pants in the family.

I am fortunate in that my Grandparents all made it past 60 years of marriage, with my wife's grandparents celebrating 62 years this week. My parents are at 55 years, and my wife's parents are at 40 years. And whenever someone says they have been married over 25 years, I make sure to tell them that it is an accomplishment to be proud of.

Sadly though, this is 2020, and being on our church's DivorceCare Leadership Team we are privy to statistics, and sadly "Gray Divorces" are not just on the rise, they have the greatest number now compared to people married lesser years.

When I was going through my divorce, a guy I worked with was just like you, boasting how many years he was married, and how the rest of us were quitters. Then his wife of 32 years left him for a man she met on the internet. He was crushed.

But that is how life can be. "Pride goeth before a fall", as the bible says, so beware.

 

[Sigarms]

Now I understand why her husband is controlling. 92 pairs of shoes?

My wife is frugal but she knows I would never put up with a waste like that.

My wife lets me do what I want to do, I let her do what she wants to do. I'd like to think that although we have complete different personalities, when it comes to living together we have the same opinion on a lot of things.

My wife has never once got on me about me buying and selling guns. Likewise, my wife would never personally own so many shoes, but if she wanted to own that many, I wouldn't fuss over it.

My wife is also what I consider frugal. She is also divorced from a very controlling ex who is very lucky my father in law didn't kill him (I've found karma has a way of catching up with horrible spouses from most of the people I know).

There is a difference IMO between going broke buying crap you don't need and having the money and buying what you like which doesn't negatively impact your financial conditions.

I'm guessing the shoe collection wasn't sprung on the OP after he was married. It's not like my wife didn't know I generally buy a couple of guns a year when she married me.

 

[tradosaurus]

I am fortunate in that my Grandparents all made it past 60 years of marriage, with my wife's grandparents celebrating 62 years this week. My parents are at 55 years, and my wife's parents are at 40 years. And whenever someone says they have been married over 25 years, I make sure to tell them that it is an accomplishment to be proud of.

Sadly though, this is 2020, and being on our church's DivorceCare Leadership Team we are privy to statistics, and sadly "Gray Divorces" are not just on the rise, they have the greatest number now compared to people married lesser years.

When I was going through my divorce, a guy I worked with was just like you, boasting how many years he was married, and how the rest of us were quitters. Then his wife of 32 years left him for a man she met on the internet. He was crushed.

But that is how life can be. "Pride goeth before a fall", as the bible says, so beware.

My response might have been prideful but I'm also realistic to know that most women are one step away from insanity. I think every wife brings up the D word to try to leverage herself in the marriage. My wife did it on three occasions and I slammed right back down her throat by saying that she has the freedom to do what she wants but we will be married until death do us part and no matter what I will refer to her as my wife until one of us passes.

I remember advice from a friend about 10 yrs ago. He said if you want your wife to look good make wild passionate love to her frequently. I will say I find my wife extremely attractive and she takes care of herself. I also have been working out (P90x) to keep obesity at bay.

It seems like women tend to go off the reservation (dump their husbands) in their late 40's around these parts. A sad story: A 50 y.o. man that works at my facility blew his brains out 3 weeks ago after his wife said she wanted a divorce.

 

[Sigarms]

My response might have been prideful but I'm also realistic to know that most women are one step away from insanity. I think every wife brings up the D word to try to leverage herself in the marriage. My wife did it on three occasions and I slammed right back down her throat by saying that she has the freedom to do what she wants but we will be married until death do us part and no matter what I will refer to her as my wife until one of us passes.

I remember advice from a friend about 10 yrs ago. He said if you want your wife to look good make wild passionate love to her frequently. I will say I find my wife extremely attractive and she takes care of herself. I also have been working out (P90x) to keep obesity at bay.

It seems like women tend to go off the reservation (dump their husbands) in their late 40's around these parts. A sad story: A 50 y.o. man that works at my facility blew his brains out 3 weeks ago after his wife said she wanted a divorce.

What's interesting is in your world, it seems that a man can do no wrong.

Newsflash, men can be just one step away from insanity as well. I also believe that a man can bring up the "D" word to try and leverage himself just as a woman. May also be news to you as well, but guys tend to go off the reservation as well (dump their wives) in the thier late 40's as well.

Sorry about your co worker, but no wife, woman or girlfriend is worth losing your life over just because they don't want to be with you anymore. Seems like he had other issues as well too take his own life over a woman.

As far as divorce goes, no spouse should ever have to deal with continual physical abuse or continuing infidelity, and if they (spouse) constantly deal with a situation like that in their marriage, it is time to get out. Could never figure that out about the Jehova's. Women can get kicked out of their church for leaving a phyically abusive husband, but not if he sleeps around with other women.

 

[tradosaurus]

What's interesting is in your world, it seems that a man can do no wrong.

Newsflash, men can be just one step away from insanity as well. I also believe that a man can bring up the "D" word to try and leverage himself just as a woman. May also be news to you as well, but guys tend to go off the reservation as well (dump their wives) in the thier late 40's as well.

Sorry about your co worker, but no wife, woman or girlfriend is worth losing your life over just because they don't want to be with you anymore. Seems like he had other issues as well too take his own life over a woman.

As far as divorce goes, no spouse should ever have to deal with continual physical abuse or continuing infidelity, and if they (spouse) constantly deal with a situation like that in their marriage, it is time to get out. Could never figure that out about the Jehovah's. Women can get kicked out of their church for leaving a physically abusive husband, but not if he sleeps around with other women.

Statistically at least 75% of all divorces are INITIATED by the woman. The argument about men being physically abusive to their wives is few and far between because of the consequences and the fact that most men want a stable marriage and home life.

In a valid Christian marriage you are allowed to separate for just cause but have to realize that you are still married.