Are my parents to strict?

[ljohnson778]

Hang in there, kid... People mean well by hanging all this heavy advice on your shoulders... You're a smart kid, you'll find your way.

 

[Cub124]

I find it interesting that you tell us your parents are Jehovah's Witness, yet you don't identify yourself as one. Whether you agree with them or not on matters of faith, pay attention to the life-lessons they are teaching you; it's a pretty safe and successful lifestyle.

I agree with much of what has been written:

If you were bullied, you're past it now, don't ever use it for an excuse. You're only 17 and living under your parents' roof, live by their rules until you can lawfully--and respectfully--leave.

If you're going to make the military your choice, enter it with 100% commitment, nothing less. Understand, though that if you do that you may cause a tear in your relationship with your parents that can never be fully, or maybe even partially, fixed.

If you're going on to college in stead of the military, do well, don't take the opportunity to use your new-found freedom for making reckless decisions which you will very soon regret.

Remember that you're only 17. Though you sound like you've got your head on pretty straight, you still have much to learn. Keep your eyes and ears wide open, filter the information coming in and use it wisely.

Whatever you do, do it wholeheartedly!

I'm past it, have been. In fact im friends with one of the kids that was doing it.

Messing up the relationship with my parents is the only reason I haven't made a decision about the military yet.

 

[Cub124]

Hang in there, kid... People mean well by hanging all this heavy advice on your shoulders... You're a smart kid, you'll find your way.

Thanks a bunch.

 

[creekbend]

I was only asking for advice on how to get them to lighten up a bit. No my parents don't beat me. I'm just barely a Junior Firefighter, I'm not allowed to do much with it.

It is not my wish to sound augmentative or put "words into your mouth". But you stated "I was only asking for advice on how to get them to lighten up a bit". I didn't include anything in my post that misrepresented your motive. When asking for advice, it is common for other people to state their views. That, in itself, is asking for involvement from others. I wish to reiterate once again that, after reviewing your post again, you are stating that you regard your Parents as being too restrict. When asking for advice, then you are actually asking for other people's input. Whether they condone or don't condone your parents behavior is "neither here nor there". In essence you are asking other people to agree with you in regards to your belief that your parents are too strict. BTW, do you still have the Polaris? "Life is like a Turkey Shoot. It is sometimes won by the one with the gun that is older but has a better and tighter pattern, than the newer model of gun that shoots a different pattern". I sincerely wish you the best in the Future, and one day, these chain of events will only be a distant memory.

 

[Cub124]

It is not my wish to sound augmentative or put "words into your mouth". But you stated "I was only asking for advice on how to get them to lighten up a bit". I didn't include anything in my post that misrepresented your motive. When asking for advice, it is common for other people to state their views. That, in itself, is asking for involvement from others. I wish to reiterate once again that, after reviewing your post again, you are stating that you regard your Parents as being too restrict. When asking for advice, then you are actually asking for other people's input. Whether they condone or don't condone your parents behavior is "neither here nor there". In essence you are asking other people to agree with you in regards to your belief that your parents are too strict. BTW, do you still have the Polaris? "Life is like a Turkey Shoot. It is sometimes won by the one with the gun that is older but has a better and tighter pattern, than the newer model of gun that shoots a different pattern". I sincerely wish you the best in the Future, and one day, these chain of events will only be a distant memory.

I understand. Yes, I still have it.

 

[Alan L.]

See if anybody else thinks my parents are to strict. I'm 17 years old and home schooled (I was bullied in elementary school) and also attending vocational school. I'm a good kid, get good grades. My parents are Jehovahs Witnesses and very strict. I can't hangout or do anything with any of my friends that aren't jehovahs witnesses. They search my phone and iPod for anything (bad) and also made me delete my Facebook. Firefighting is my life, so they let me join a local fire department, but only allow me to attend training one night a week and my dad has to go with me. This is only a little bit, I could keep typing but don't want to bore anybody anymore lol

Sorry, I guess this was kind of just me venting a little bit. Any ideas of how I can get them to lighten up a bit and give me more freedom?

I suspect your parents want the best for you and until you are of age you should take in all they are trying to instill in you. Once you are of age it will be your decision.

 

[Ken]

Yes I'm the oldest. I've tried talking with them but they think me hanging out with anybody that's not a witness is bad.

Cub 124 I lost a son because I did not question his activities and the type of "friend's he was traveling with.
Last letter was Don't call on Phone will hang up. Will block your e-mail. Don't come by his address will not answer the door.
The hate and vemon he spews at us to those he knows we know is unreal.

This is the reason I said to ask why they question you and look into your music and cell phones.
Religion may not be the real cause of the distrust.
ken

 

[Cub124]

Cub 124 I lost a son because I did not question his activities and the type of "friend's he was traveling with.
Last letter was Don't call on Phone will hang up. Will block your e-mail. Don't come by his address will not answer the door.
The hate and vemon he spews at us to those he knows we know is unreal.

This is the reason I said to ask why they question you and look into your music and cell phones.
Religion may not be the real cause of the distrust.
ken

The reason my parents are like that is because they don't want me to be "part of the world" as they say.

 

[Davestc29]

Only advice I can give you is this, your parents only want what's best while I understand sometimes it can be agitating all you can do is look back and try to use what they have taught to make smart decisions. If you feel the military is your calling then by all means I myself tried to join but between and old injury from a motorcycle accident and being type one diabetic I was unable so I did what any one else does go to college and open a business that has nothing to do with my degree. My parent were never strict but they big on moral and family values so basically ask your self what you want to do and I'm site even they don't like it no matter they love you and eventually will support it 100%

 

[Ken]

The reason my parents are like that is because they don't want me to be "part of the world" as they say.

Sometimes best to let a sleeping dog lay than to awake a angrey wolf.
It's only a short year. save your money to pay ones way until employeed because of the experance you can give to employer.
Best wishes
ken