Anyone ever use a Life Coach?

[Yander]

Yep, Everyone posting about never needed this or never needed that. You ain't dead yet!

 

[ultrarunner]

A good friend told me a rule that he employs… if he comes home from the job really ticked off 3 days in a row he resigns on the 4th.

He said he did this twice and in hindsight no second thoughts.

The third time it motivated him to open his own business and never looked back…

 

[MAX-24-Dean]

A good friend told me a rule that he employs… if he comes home from the job really ticked off 3 days in a row he resigns on the 4th.

He said he did this twice and in hindsight no second thoughts.

The third time it motivated him to open his own business and never looked back…

My approach also, I only had to utilize my philosophy on this twice in my carreer. Once when another engineer was messing with my drawings and calculations so I would look bad to the boss. Mainly so he would look good (narcissitic guy). I put in one of those effective imediately notices. The other guy then got found out. It is really sad it happened this way, but it couldn't have happened to a nicer guy.

Was asked to come back to finish the job.

Another time I was working out of the country and the per diem wasn't on my pay stub. Asked where it was and was told you make enough in salary to pay your own expenses. Called in a favor from a previous project and I was on the next flight home with 2 other guys from the same project.

 

[5030]

Please keep commenting on threads. I don't always agree your opinion but I do enjoy reading what you write.

No problem. I'm here until I'm not. I am exploring alternative treatments as I need at least a second opinion. We all have opinions. What makes this forum and others interesting. Next stop is the Cleveland Clinic tomorrow and then Mayo and possibly Anderson in Texas.

When a medical professional tells you you have 6 months left, life becomes very focused.

 

[riptides]

No problem. I'm here until I'm not. I am exploring alternative treatments as I need at least a second opinion. We all have opinions. What makes this forum and others interesting. Next stop is the Cleveland Clinic tomorrow and then Mayo and possibly Anderson in Texas.

When a medical professional tells you you have 6 months left, life becomes very focused.

Sorry to hear this. Really. I hope you find peace and comfort. I will give a recommendation for John's Hopkins.
Best of luck to you.

 

[5030]

I'd like to live a long time. Problem is, for me, it's not in the cards. I'm at peace with the Lord and I accept my fate whatever that is. I just don't want to suffer, I've had enough pain in my life already. This has been ongoing for 6 years now. I worry about my wife but she's a strong person. At least my eventual demise is taken care of right down to my headstone.

Like I said, I don't talk about it on any forum, here or elsewhere and very few people really know what I've been through. I am thankful I have the healthcare I have. I'm solid into 6 figures for professional care.

Enough of that, back to regular programming...

 

[5030]

Sorry to hear this. Really. I hope you find peace and comfort. I will give a recommendation for John's Hopkins.
Best of luck to you.

There really is only 3 medical institutions that can address it, like I said, Cleveland Clinic, Mayo and Anderson in Texas. I'm within shooting distance to Cleveland Clinic so that is my first choice.

What I fand amazing is, I just had my birthday party and close friends came here from all over the country to be with me. I was very honored plus I got taken out for a steak as well.

Unless I took my shirt off, you'd never know. I look like 5 miles of bad road actually.

Still farming and raising hell but I see the end coming.

Been a helluva ride if I don't say so myself.

 

[dodge man]

Best of luck 5030!

 

[5030]

Best of luck 5030!

Not sure if it involves luck at this point. More like exploring all the alternatives and exploring all the cutting edge procedures. Fingers crossed today, on my way to Cleveland shortly.

Being 73 kind of puts me behind the curve anyway.

 

[oosik]

At times we could all use help. Call it a life coach, partner, God, whatever. I will not cast dispersion on your choice - you do likewise for me.

 

[2manyrocks]

I don't want to be like one of Job's well intended friends whose words only made things worse for Job. Let's just say I'm hoping for the best for you, 5030.

For the OP, I think we spend much of our working lives focused on work until there comes a point when we lift our heads up a bit and start asking what is the purpose of all of this? When we consider the ever shifting sand of today's world, it seems like there is no end to the questions that could be asked. Many answers on the internet are no more than foolish babble.

Ecclesiastes was written by someone wrestling with the issues of life. After considering everything, he didn't find any lasting meaning in any of it, and concludes his thoughts at the end by saying it all boils down to fearing God and keeping his commandments.

 

[Hay Dude]

Eddie, you're spot on with all the folks I've ever met that are psychiatrists, counselors, therapists etc. They've always been such odd folks that can barely socially interact with others. I guess I was thinking a Life Coach is something different, like one of those house organizing folks or something. Maybe not.

I've heard the same thing about cardiac patients. I don't think my funk is related, mine was just tachycardia that they think was caused by over-hydration/long hours, coupled with stress and caffeine, getting me out of whack on electrolytes. I'll tell you this, 160- 190 resting heart rate will get your attention. My wife was really impressed that I waited until the third episode .

I've been back to the gym every day since Thursday and my attitude is already starting to get back sorted again. I think there's definitely a "blip or bounce" that happens to your psyche when you skip or get out of an exercise regimen.

I have some jobs lined up in Orlando, Taiwan and Pakistan so even if that's the only work I do for the rest of the year, that covers my nut. I really do enjoy traveling, but I'm getting tired of all the drama in my industry and the entire workforce in general. From my talks with others, my industry isn't alone. It seems that work ethic, morals and competence have all taken a backseat to all the "woke" issues of the day.

I'm in a position to maybe make a complete lifestyle/career change and I guess that's weighing on me. Heck, I'd be perfectly content building pipe fences, building deer feeders/blinds and/or brush hogging pastures all day and maybe I look for something that's as simple as that. Money isn't really an issue, although I guess I was wanting to keep my foot on the accelerator for another few years to fund more vacations and a wilder retirement.

A mid-life quandary and a tapping of the brakes so I can figure out what I really want to do, is what I think my funk is. I just haven't figured out the answer yet.

I was a successful construction company owner, but always had the farming bug. I really like what I do, but I can sort of tell you may be the type that’ll switch careers and immediately begin pressuring yourself to make it in your “dream retirement job”.
It’ll be fine for a while, then feel like a ”real job” after a few years, especially if you want to make money.

I love what I do now, but because it’s a 2nd career and NOT a hooby, it has begun to wear me down a bit. It’s not the actual process of making hay, it’s the nighttime repairs, book/record keeping, forms, tax stuff, etc.

 

[EddieWalker]

I was a successful construction company owner, but always had the farming bug. I really like what I do, but I can sort of tell you may be the type that’ll switch careers and immediately begin pressuring yourself to make it in your “dream retirement job”.
It’ll be fine for a while, then feel like a ”real job” after a few years, especially if you want to make money.

I love what I do now, but because it’s a 2nd career and NOT a hooby, it has begun to wear me down a bit. It’s not the actual process of making hay, it’s the nighttime repairs, book/record keeping, forms, tax stuff, etc.

Those never ending repairs are the part I hate the most with trying to have a farm. I sometimes spend more hours wrenching in a day then actually on the tractor. I spent 6 hours on Sunday fixing things and less then an hour actually on my tractors. Lawn mowers are the worse

I’m pretty content with home remodels and repairs. It’s 100 outside and I’m installing tile inside an air conditioned house. It’s completely stress free work

 

[dmccarty]

Just a post about life.

I have followed a couple via a boating website and their blog. They have spent a lifetime sailing and then spent five years building a very nice boat. The boat commissioning had some very unexpected surprises but the husband was able to deal with them all himself. They finally were able to cross the length of the Med, travel across the Atlantic to the islands and then up to the US. Long story short, health issues hit the husband and they are having to sell the boat. At some point this would happen but this was far earlier than they expected.

Another older couple, with an amazing cruising history, had the same thing happen to them. They had gotten up there in age but things were going well with them. The husband was taking a photo, ironically I think it was a sunset, fell and messed up his knee. That injury caused them to have to end boating.

A sorta common statement to people who want to buy a boat and go see the world is buy now and go. You don't know how much time you really have so go. Don't wait.

This also applies to the discussions here. Look at what you WANT to be doing and figure out how you can get there as soon as possible. The clock is ticking...

 

[riptides]

The clocks ticking and **** happens.

Ya gotta plan for the worse case...somehow...and enjoy each day. LOL.

 

[Hay Dude]

Just a post about life.

I have followed a couple via a boating website and their blog. They have spent a lifetime sailing and then spent five years building a very nice boat. The boat commissioning had some very unexpected surprises but the husband was able to deal with them all himself. They finally were able to cross the length of the Med, travel across the Atlantic to the islands and then up to the US. Long story short, health issues hit the husband and they are having to sell the boat. At some point this would happen but this was far earlier than they expected.

Another older couple, with an amazing cruising history, had the same thing happen to them. They had gotten up there in age but things were going well with them. The husband was taking a photo, ironically I think it was a sunset, fell and messed up his knee. That injury caused them to have to end boating.

A sorta common statement to people who want to buy a boat and go see the world is buy now and go. You don't know how much time you really have so go. Don't wait.

This also applies to the discussions here. Look at what you WANT to be doing and figure out how you can get there as soon as possible. The clock is ticking...

I have more years of work behind me than ahead of me for sure. I enjoy what I do, but am also buying more modern, faster, more comfortable equipment. It costs more, but I want to compensate myself a bit too, you know?

 

[Rockbadchild]

one of my friend wife is a “life coach” she was a pharmacist, after having kids she couldn’t handle both, she got depressed and overwhelmed so she quit and become a life coach … so in summary she couldn’t handle life but now she is teaching people to try handling it … y’a go figure … you know what to do, you just wrote it down … Set yourself some short term goals , mid term goal and long term goals all with with realistic time line and try to stay on track. and more importantly take time for yourself … I think you just realized work is not life, work to live and not live to work.

 

[Slowpoke Slim]

No problem. I'm here until I'm not. I am exploring alternative treatments as I need at least a second opinion. We all have opinions. What makes this forum and others interesting. Next stop is the Cleveland Clinic tomorrow and then Mayo and possibly Anderson in Texas.

When a medical professional tells you you have 6 months left, life becomes very focused.

Cancer? I think I recall somewhere else on TBN you said brain?

No surprise to either one of us that we don't, and haven't gotten along. Putting all that aside, and take this for what you will, but my vote would be Mayo.

I was diagnosed with brain cancer in January. Like you, (oh boy), I haven't said anything to anyone on any of the forums I frequent. I honestly just didn't want to make a spectacle of what I was going through. So no one here on TBN, or any other site knew anything about it (until now, obviously).

But I was fortunate that I had the more common, and less threatening kind of brain cancer, called Meningioma. If anyone was going to go out and get brain cancer, that's the one you want. Very rarely is it ever malignant, and most of the time very slow growing. The tumor grows on the Meningise membrane around the brain. For me, my tumor was the size of a small chicken egg, and the problem was it was growing into, around and along side of my brain stem. Because of it's location, it was a game changer and had to come out. No one in Bismarck wanted to tackle it. But I found a specialist at Mayo, young lady doctor from Brazil (or Argentina, I forget, some of those days I was in quite a fog). Her name was Dr Maria Peris Celda. Only thing she does are the very difficult cases, and she is "the best" at Mayo, the one they call in when no one else can tackle the proceedure. She only does brain surgeries, nothing else. I did have surgery in March at Mayo. 14 hr surgery and 10 days in ICU afterwards.

I still have some lingering side effects, most of which I had before surgery, difficulty with balance, swallowing food or drink, and I have some nerve damage in my left arm and left hand. Still weak compared to my "old normal", but I'm alive. Part of the tumor was to tightly wrapped against, and in the brain stem, so she didn't try to remove those portions, but got most of it out. The rest, they will treat with radiation, which I start in 2 weeks.

Give Mayo a try. They were great to me. Look up Dr. Peris Celda (traditional Latin American culture, uses 2 "last names"). She's the one the rest turn to on tough cases.