Actually guys......I put it all together. I built my FEL myself, I found an old Freeman trip bucket loader at our local salvage yard. It had the original trip bucket, arms and subframe for a considerably larger tractor than mine. I was able to use the metal from the original sub frame and cut it all up and fabricated a frame for my tractor, I cut length off each end of the arms and cut sections out of the width, welded it all back together, installed proper pins and bushings and made the bucket. I bought all the cylinders and the control valve off Ebay. The valve was NOS from a dealer and I got it for a song. The valve came with all the plumbing and quick connects for a Ford/NH ,1220 tractor. I got into the valve after discussing it earlier in this thread and couldn't find a relief cartridge so I contacted the seller and he supplied my with schematics for all the Ford valves and explained :
""All of the Ford (New Holland) 20-series tractors used the same valve, except the 1220 valve relief port
had a plug installed. They started with Zexel and switched to Kayaba in
later production, but basic function is identical. I don't think that these
valves share any internal components. The 1220 models used full system
pressure for loader, but the 1320 and bigger had a relief valve to clip
system pressure for loader operation."""
I knew before hand that this valve was produced specifically for a 1220 and although I own a Mitsubishi tractor ( grey model CIH 254) wasn't worried about it since I assumed every valve had an internal relief valve, it never occurred to me that it was possibly otherwise. This was originally a $700 valve package from Ford and is a joystick w/ PBY and I (AS*)umed it would work with no problem. SURPRISE!
Well, My loader has turned out great, I only have about $400 whole thing ( in the loader that is.......... the $350 pump replacement kind of negates all that!), it looks pretty factory (except I haven't sandblasted and painted it yet-that's a winter project) and is way more sturdy than my needs require, hence even more need for a relief system.
I am going to get a 3 port relief and go that route. I already had a Baum Hydraulics catalogue and forgot there were plumbing diagrams in it, so maybe even I can figure it out now .

I'll get the valve from one of the other suppliers though- Baum seems to sell most everything at a high premium but they do have things you can't find just anywhere.
I appreciate all the help and now I will sleep better knowing we have saved some other poor soul the heart ache of buying an antiquated Ford NH 1220 valve and putting it on their cobbled up loader ( like anyone else would ever have this problem).
Thanks to all,
Darryl