Parents with dementia, how dealing with that has gone.

[ultrarunner]

I could not do it and bought my siblings out...

 

[MossRoad]

I could not do it and bought my siblings out...

On the flip side, my father told me NOT to buy the house he built because it was an architectural experiment and a money pit to keep going in this climate.

I knew that, because I'd helped him modify it many times of my 24 years in that house. I hope the people that have it now enjoy it. I know they've had to put a ton of money into it, that's for sure.

 

[Sigarms]

The closing on my parent's house was on New Year's Eve. I said my goodbyes the last time I was at the house in November knowing that I probably wouldn't be back. Just a very strange feeling knowing that someone else is now living in the house my Dad was born in which he then purchased in his 20's and raised all of us in it. So many memories. The house was meant to be lived in so I can only hope the new owners take care of it like my parent's did and myself and my siblings did when my parent's aged and they also make the memories that we now have.

My home as I knew it my parents bought in 1978 after my dad retired from the military. Only lived in that house for 5 years before I started my own life, but it is the only "real" home I knew of until my wife and I bought our place about 20 years ago.

I forget how, but I ended up talking with the guy who bought my parents home (small town and he was raised in the same town). When my dad came to live with us, a couple years later he finally decided it was time to sell the place which I did for him.

Although the new buyer was young and single, the home was a perfect fit for him. I ended up sending him info and stuff my dad had on the house that he sincerely seemed to appreciate. I'd show my dad pictures of what the guy had done to the home, and my father seemed seemed impressed.

Never in a million years did I expect to see a caterpillar in the basement where we had family reunions LOL

Or a couple of tractors in Dad's garage

Place only had 3 acres, but most of that was on the other side of the creek (where I shot my first pheasant). Ironically enough the kid is into old tractors and Caterpillars, and has to be pretty sharp being an engineer.

 

[WinterDeere]

Never in a million years did I expect to see a caterpillar in the basement where we had family reunions LOL

Assuming it has drive-out access, and not a "Porsche in the apartment" scenario?

A wrenching prank at Caltech

May 25, 1956: Pranksters at Caltech pulled off a major coup, disassembling an engineering student's small foreign car and reassembling it in the basement of Throop Hall in a place where it blocked a stairway and the doors to two laboratories.

www.latimes.com

 

[Sigarms]

Assuming it has drive-out access, and not a "Porsche in the apartment" scenario?

A wrenching prank at Caltech

May 25, 1956: Pranksters at Caltech pulled off a major coup, disassembling an engineering student's small foreign car and reassembling it in the basement of Throop Hall in a place where it blocked a stairway and the doors to two laboratories.

www.latimes.com

Below grade basement has a roll up door. Parents always kept that door shut and made a "poor mans" finished basement where my parents set up for their hobbies.

When the new guy bought the place, that basement was perfect for storing and doing his projects.

Both my dad and myself always got a kick out of whatever he was "bringing in" my dad's old place...

 

[MossRoad]

Assuming it has drive-out access, and not a "Porsche in the apartment" scenario?

A wrenching prank at Caltech

May 25, 1956: Pranksters at Caltech pulled off a major coup, disassembling an engineering student's small foreign car and reassembling it in the basement of Throop Hall in a place where it blocked a stairway and the doors to two laboratories.

www.latimes.com

My dad knew of a guy that built an airplane in his basement. Another one built a boat.

In both cases, they had to dig a ramp and cut out the basement wall to get them out. But they did it.

 

[WinterDeere]

Building a boat in one's back yard, and then having to crane it out over the house, seems to be one that comes up over and over. I know of a few, myself.

But the Caltech link I posted above might be the earliest or best known example of someone assembling cars indoors, which has been copied in several movies (e.g. Real Genius, etc.).

 

[ultrarunner]

Same with a guy that restored a Model A roadster...

My dad knew of a guy that built an airplane in his basement. Another one built a boat.

In both cases, they had to dig a ramp and cut out the basement wall to get them out. But they did it.

Knew a guy that did the same with a Model A Roadster... Opened up a wall, built a wood ramp and hired a tow truck to winch it out and up...

 

[riptides]

Do an internet search on WWII tanks in basements.

Hefty fines for the hobbyist or memorialist.

 

[California]

But the Caltech link I posted above might be the earliest or best known example of someone assembling cars indoors

Long ago I read of someone who returned from Christmas vacation to find a running Model T indoors, on campus, where it had to have been disassembled to get it in there.

 

[WinterDeere]

Long ago I read of someone who returned from Christmas vacation to find a running Model T indoors, on campus, where it had to have been disassembled to get it in there.

It may have been Caltech, as they described a roughly similar scenario in the article I had posted above... namely a Model T in the basement of one of the dormitory halls.

 

[MossRoad]

My father said they put some kid's car in a hallway at Notre Dame back in the late 30's/early 40's. I believe he said it was the football team.

 

[ArlyA]

Sorry I've not updated this. I have a lengthy report to write and post. The spouse is up there now and goes up every month. He did sell his car.

 

[MossRoad]

Sorry I've not updated this. I have a lengthy report to write and post. The spouse is up there now and goes up every month. He did sell his car.

That's gotta be a relief.

 

[ArlyA]

Little update. Her dads dementia has moved to the less angry phase.

While she was up there moving him to another building and packing up his stuff, she found legal papers from his attorney. She sped read them but couldn't define what they meant and she also found a hand written note for here dad a "to do" list made my Diane, who she didn't know which stated, "remove children from your power of attorney an make Diane" and a few other items like moving back home. She asked her dad about the note and he said something to the effect "I'm not working with her anymore".

After getting home she made a phone appointment with the attorney who said "he's been calling here much and keeping my staff from there normal work, so we made him some papers to go through that meant nothing." plus "when he is around town, he will tell anyone who will listen that his kids moved him from his home, stealing his $$ and won't let him move back to his house etc, etc".

All this had put an exorbitant amount of stress on my poor spouse but of course, it is or was her dad's reality at the time.

 

[ultrarunner]

Visiting friends in similar situations very often the person will say take me home, get me out of here and break off communication with kids blaming them for not being able to stay in their home.

Mom wanted to stay in her home so I became the hero…

The family members that said she should be in a facility she remembered to the end…

One thing that surprised the heck out of me is about 10 days before mom passed she had about 30 minutes of perfect focused clarity… her friend was also there and we both looked at each other in disbelief because it was so well reasoned and spoken.

She said she wouldn’t be around too much longer, thanked us for everything and most of all for returning home… she read her medical reports and her 50 years of RN training kicked in… her final words were not making it to Christmas and making sure all the grandkids were remembered… I asked for detail and she said can I afford to give each a thousand dollars and I said I will make sure it happens and she was happy.

 

[kenmbz]

My father is still in his house, still in his bed, almost the end.
Brother is out there now, he is on hospice care.
Will need to head out soon :-(

 

[alexpops]

It may have been Caltech, as they described a roughly similar scenario in the article I had posted above... namely a Model T in the basement of one of the dormitory halls.

I worked at CalTech in the early-mid 80's. Very interesting place & definitely brilliant students. During exams they used to concoct their own amphetamines to stay awake & cram for the week. I watched a bunch of the PhD students analyzing a molecule diagram of one of their compounds & while I didn't understand a thing they were talking about, I gathered enough to understand that depending on where a carbon atom showed up in the molecule they could design in or out hallucinations/"wired" effects & how long before the crash.

They have a thing there called Senior ditch day, where all the seniors have to leave campus for 24 hours. One year when this happened, (85 or 86) the underclassmen dismantled & reassembled a senior's Porsche on the dorm roof overnight & left it up there running for everyone to see in the morning. The school paper had pictures of the crane operator & physical plant manager on the roof trying to figure out how to remove it without damaging the car. They were also pretty famous at that time for doing pranks like burying student made explosives on football fields for detonation when no one was near them during games. I think they did it at a Rosebowl game around that time, even though Caltech wasn't playing. One of the "best colleges" guides described the underclassmen as brilliant but lacking in all social skills & had a blurb about the "air" of the student body due to lack of regular bathing. The idiot PR person actually responded by claiming that Caltech's student body smelled no worse than any other college's. She didn't stay long after that.

 

[ArlyA]

I worked at CalTech in the early-mid 80's. Very interesting place & definitely brilliant students. During exams they used to concoct their own amphetamines to stay awake & cram for the week. I watched a bunch of the PhD students analyzing a molecule diagram of one of their compounds & while I didn't understand a thing they were talking about, I gathered enough to understand that depending on where a carbon atom showed up in the molecule they could design in or out hallucinations/"wired" effects & how long before the crash.

They have a thing there called Senior ditch day, where all the seniors have to leave campus for 24 hours. One year when this happened, (85 or 86) the underclassmen dismantled & reassembled a senior's Porsche on the dorm roof overnight & left it up there running for everyone to see in the morning. The school paper had pictures of the crane operator & physical plant manager on the roof trying to figure out how to remove it without damaging the car. They were also pretty famous at that time for doing pranks like burying student made explosives on football fields for detonation when no one was near them during games. I think they did it at a Rosebowl game around that time, even though Caltech wasn't playing. One of the "best colleges" guides described the underclassmen as brilliant but lacking in all social skills & had a blurb about the "air" of the student body due to lack of regular bathing. The idiot PR person actually responded by claiming that Caltech's student body smelled no worse than any other college's. She didn't stay long after that.

You guys need to start a new thread.

 

[alexpops]

I apologize. I was responding & only after hitting send did I realize it wasn't the joke thread.