Parents with dementia, how dealing with that has gone.

[ArlyA]

Ooo, sorry to hear that. I've known several elderly people that did that and recovered, but also some that were not able to. It all depended on if they had the physical strength and will to go through rehab.

She is headed to surgery to get it fixed

 

[CalG]

My kids are gonna need to hire a rigger to clean out my place.

By the ton, I win! ;-)

 

[MossRoad]

She is headed to surgery to get it fixed

My grandma broke hers around her late 80's and recovered in a few weeks. Broke another one in mid 90's and it took a few months. She passed at age 98. After the first one, she always had a limp. But get her behind a shopping cart and get out of her way.

Hope your MIL recovers quickly.

 

[kenmbz]

Hope your MIL recovers well , both my GM and my FIL broke hips and recovered to live on.
So think positive.

 

[ArlyA]

Thanks guys. Spouse is heading up there today. Will post updates.

 

[ArlyA]

Little update. Spouses dad isn't taking the antidepressant he was prescribed to.. He claims "he doesn't need it" and my spouse can tell his dementia has worsened. Mom came through the surgery OK and will start on rehab today. Just a reminder that her dementia is further along and not sure she knows what's going on.

 

[Eaglesfate]

If your parents happen to have any tools, collectables, firearms, I would be glad to help clean them out of your folks home.

 

[Runner]

Little update. Spouses dad isn't taking the antidepressant he was prescribed to.. He claims "he doesn't need it" and my spouse can tell his dementia has worsened. Mom came through the surgery OK and will start on rehab today. Just a reminder that her dementia is further along and not sure she knows what's going on.

They don't waste any time with those hip surgeries. They had my 88 yo Grandmother up and walking the next day.

 

[ultrarunner]

Sometimes elderly with declining mental ability seem to have lost a little more after general anesthesia...

I'm not a Doc but hear Docs talk about the fog...

 

[MossRoad]

Sometimes elderly with declining mental ability seem to have lost a little more after general anesthesia...

I'm not a Doc but hear Docs talk about the fog...

Yes, that's a big concern. One of the times my father in-law was in for surgery, they said they were going to put in a stent without putting him under. Unfortunately, they could not, and they had to put him under. He was not the same afterward.

Of course, he was not the same before, either, but we were disappointed in that they assured us they wouldn't have to put him under, but ended up doing so.

However, he was fortunately still very easy to handle, and quite the agreeable dementia patient, so that was a blessing for my mother in-law.

On a funny note, in the hospital he thought the bed controller/call button was a slot machine, and was complaining that it wasn't paying out. Every time his wife left the room, he insisted she was down on another floor of the casino, was probably winning and didn't want him to know, and left him at this crummy machine.

He did enjoy his days at the casinos over the years.

 

[ArlyA]

Month-in-law is not doing well. The hospitalist was by and thought the cancer was messing with he immune system.

 

[kenmbz]

Month-in-law is not doing well. The hospitalist was by and thought the cancer was messing with he immune system.

Sorry to hear Arly, Cancer sucks, wife just lost her cousin to cancer yesterday.

 

[tradosaurus]

Month-in-law is not doing well. The hospitalist was by and thought the cancer was messing with he immune system.

I would think the “treatments” are messing with the immune system.
My dad went through cancer treatment at 77 and said he would never do it again. Got cancer again within two years and lived the remaining years without it.

 

[ultrarunner]

Dad went through it all and literally was on deaths door not expected to last 24 hours with life support… he came back and had nearly a year of remission and then it came back hard and was gone in 5 weeks with the last 10 days in the hospital.

He never gave up but having almost a year free from chemo, dialysis and radiation and over all feeling good was anything but expected…

 

[ArlyA]

I never mentioned any cancer treatments. She is in hospice care.

 

[ArlyA]

With the help of some folks in Ely MN, where they're located. They will try to get the car out of his paws today. My spouse has been up there for the week but needs to get away. Dementia is tough. Now we have serious lake snow predicted on the south shore.

 

[ultrarunner]

I never mentioned any cancer treatments. She is in hospice care.

Very good friends and mom with home hospice...

Nothing bad to say about the nurses and aids taking on this work knowing the end is near for their patients.

My friend lasted a few days and my neighbor lasted over a year...

Neighbor was 106 having out lived all her family and it was just her and her boyfriend 16 years her junior.

Several times Hospice was to be discontinued but another neighbor became advocate and would get it extended and this was all during Covid... she survived 2 worldwide pandemics...

 

[ArlyA]

With the help of assisted living staff and friends, seems the car was finally snagged out of her dad's hands. Her mom doesn't know or recall she broke her hip. They think she'll last 2 to 5 weeks.

 

[kenmbz]

With the help of assisted living staff and friends, seems the car was finally snagged out of her dad's hands. Her mom doesn't know or recall she broke her hip. They think she'll last 2 to 5 weeks.

this forgetting thing is awful.
My dad thinks he can walk fine and has been in bed for a week.
He hasn't walked and has been in bed for almost 6 months.

 

[ArlyA]

Month-in-law has passed as predicted by the healthcare professionals. We are moving her dad into a different type of care building within the campus taking him out of the memory care.