newbury
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He'd probably say yes.If I asked you to oversee the improvement of one of my houses for free, you'd tell me what?
He'd probably say yes.If I asked you to oversee the improvement of one of my houses for free, you'd tell me what?
I was able to change my work hours to start at 4 am and would be a moms everyday to fix lunch and stay until after dinner when she retired for the evening.
Mid 2018 is when I began spending the night in my old bedroom which continued until she passed in 2023 with home hospice care in full force… hospital bed, catheter, supplemental oxygen, etc… at the end.
Excellent post.Fiduciary duty is a narrow path to tread. Trustees must follow the written terms of the trust. A typical bypass credit shelter trust ends at death of the surviving spouse with distribution of assets to follow as soon as the fiduciary can reasonably wind up the trust.
Using $100K of trust funds of which 1/3 probably beneficially belongs to Ultrarunner to fix up the mom's house for resale likely isn't authorized by typical trust terms. Asking Ultrarunner to effectively use his own funds to run up the value of the house against his interest seems like a real stretch to me.
Executors must follow the written terms of the will and only have as much power as granted by the will. What can/cannot be done with real estate depends on the will and California law.
Probate/Trust judges will sanction fiduciaries who engage in wheeling and dealing with fiduciary assets. Might even remove them from office if things go wrong.
It could be that the Executor's only duty here is to distribute the home to the 3 siblings and then each owns a 1/3 interest. I doubt the 2 siblings can force Ultrarunner to improve the home for resale as trustee, executor or individual owner absent some trust/will provision to this effect.
I'm not kidding when I say fiduciary duty is a narrow path to tread. People have difficulty comprehending the legalese in trusts and wills. Hence the need for an independent estate/trust attorney to give competent advice what the rules are, and do not rely on an attorney associated with the siblings.
Maybe it's the real estate agent instincts kicking in and they're not thinking of the whole situation.
.... You have the moral high ground if it comes to real argument.
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Ok, now I get it.I’m back in my house… but stop by moms home everyday on the way home getting the mail, watering her plants, etc.
I should be mowing and Spring clean up and some of the trim could use a fresh coat of paint… but keep putting it off.
It’s been 10 years since I last painted the inside and out and it’s ready again…
If you were my brother, I'd be thanking you for taking good care of Mom and helping her to stay home. I sure as **** wouldn't be asking you to fix up the house to sell it to someone else for more $$ when I know you want the house.
At this point it would be wise to realize it is no longer your Mom's home. It is yours and your siblings house. Tell them that any maintenance of it by you is not free. That the other 2 owe 2/3rd of the cost of doing it.I’m back in my house… but stop by moms home everyday on the way home getting the mail, watering her plants, etc.
I should be mowing and Spring clean up and some of the trim could use a fresh coat of paint… but keep putting it off.
It’s been 10 years since I last painted the inside and out and it’s ready again…
it's the estates's house until the estate gets settled.At this point it would be wise to realize it is no longer your Mom's home. It is yours and your siblings house. Tell them that any maintenance of it by you is not free. That the other 2 owe 2/3rd of the cost of doing it.
Being a nice guy has its own rewards but being a doormat gets you walked on. Do not be a doormat.
If it is still in probate than yes. Even more reason to stop thinking of it as his Mom's home.it's the estates's house until the estate gets settled.
I believe the OP mentioned he is the executor.The one thing the OP has not mentioned is who is the court approved Executor for the Estate.
The executer has responsibility to the estate. Not the benefactors.I believe the OP mentioned he is the executor.
Maybe just entitled combined with Real Estate is their field?I just can't get my head around that type of behavior. I know there are 3 sides to every story and I try to take that into account. I'm just not wired like your siblings nor is my sister thank goodness. I can't help but detect a bit of selfishness and greed in what you say about them.
I dont even know that entitled is relevant. Based on my understanding, everyone got equal shares, so let's not act like the OP should be getting a bigger part of the equal share, regardless of the care. I do understand the perspective that a 10% investment into the home, could yield a 25% increase in value too. I just think it's better to move on quickly, get everything liquidated, and call it a day.Maybe just entitled combined with Real Estate is their field?