Anyone ever use a Life Coach?

[Yander]

I understand the addiction to the chaos and the thrill of pulling out of it. I was a consultant project manager for about 7 years. I didn't travel but I got to get placed in a various number of companies that put a lot of pressure on you delivering their project. It sort of got a high from it because I figured out I was pretty good at it.

Not good at too many things but working with and alongside people and motivating them was a gift. Probably from my mother.

Now I'm on a large project that is going so smoothly I don't know what to do with myself and I told my boss last week. People who haven't gone through that won't understand. I was going through some funk for about the past year and finally started self talking myself out of it in the past few weeks.

What helps me? Making a list in my head or a physical list of all of the things I have to be thankful for, and they are many! Realizing their are people out there that really do need help in every way, shape and form.

Learning that I don't have to fix everything (hard one for me) as @Snobdds said, it will be there tomorrow. I try to prioritize the things that really do matter and manage the people around me who try to give me my priorities. I put them in their lane, so to speak. It creates anxiety for them when I don't drop everything for them. Not my issue. I will get to it, just when it is time.

Take time to do the things you won't be able to do for long. Kids, grandkids and family in general. They won't be there forever.

Take time to smell some of the roses you have created with your efforts. I'm also on some meds that have helped me.

Wellbutrin 300mg.​

I quit drinking two years ago and it has made a huge impact in my life. I have been able to talk some others through some of those hard times. We actually do it for one another.

You need to find a friend you can trust to vent to besides your wife. Someone who will tell you what you need to hear, not always what you want to hear. Better than gold to have a friend like that, I happen to have one.

Never used a life coach but wouldn't dismiss it either.

 

[Citydude]

There is no shame in seeing a trained therapist. Life coaches in my opinion, are not qualified to unpack life's bumpy rollercoaster ride.

 

[Dftodd]

I understand the addiction to the chaos and the thrill of pulling out of it. I was a consultant project manager for about 7 years. I didn't travel but I got to get placed in a various number of companies that put a lot of pressure on you delivering their project. It sort of got a high from it because I figured out I was pretty good at it.

Not good at too many things but working with and alongside people and motivating them was a gift. Probably from my mother.

Now I'm on a large project that is going so smoothly I don't know what to do with myself and I told my boss last week. People who haven't gone through that won't understand. I was going through some funk for about the past year and finally started self talking myself out of it in the past few weeks.

What helps me? Making a list in my head or a physical list of all of the things I have to be thankful for, and they are many! Realizing their are people out there that really do need help in every way, shape and form.

Learning that I don't have to fix everything (hard one for me) as @Snobdds said, it will be there tomorrow. I try to prioritize the things that really do matter and manage the people around me who try to give me my priorities. I put them in their lane, so to speak. It creates anxiety for them when I don't drop everything for them. Not my issue. I will get to it, just when it is time.

Take time to do the things you won't be able to do for long. Kids, grandkids and family in general. They won't be there forever.

Take time to smell some of the roses you have created with your efforts. I'm also on some meds that have helped me.

Wellbutrin 300mg.​

I quit drinking two years ago and it has made a huge impact in my life. I have been able to talk some others through some of those hard times. We actually do it for one another.

You need to find a friend you can trust to vent to besides your wife. Someone who will tell you what you need to hear, not always what you want to hear. Better than gold to have a friend like that, I happen to have one.

Never used a life coach but wouldn't dismiss it either.

Me and wellbutrin don't get along Lexapro worked much better for me when I quit smoking.

Currently take Prozac every other day to keep the squirrel cage from spinning all night long.

I'm one of the people that has a bad reaction to wellbutrin. Day one and two I was fine. Day 3 I was mad at the world.

I finally had to explain to my wife I was having a bad reaction to the wellbutrin. And then locked myself in the guest room for the night.

I was absolutely furious that my wife was breathing in the same room as me I mean really!! How dare she breath the same air as me!!!!

I quit taking it. Blew up my doctors office. Told the nurse I didn't care what they gave me as long as they keep me married and employed

Doctors nurse called me back a couple hours later and told me they sent a prescription for Lexapro into the pharmacy

 

[Dftodd]

There is no shame in seeing a trained therapist. Life coaches in my opinion, are not qualified to unpack life's bumpy rollercoaster ride.

I agree. Much better to seek out a professional.

We went through a rough patch dealing with a son with drug addiction. We ended up seeing a therapist that specializes with families dealing with addiction.

 

[CloverKnollFarms]

See a functional doctor. Have them check all of your blood levels and hormone levels. I recently did, got on testosterone replacement, and I feel a lot better. Just an idea

 

[CalG]

Call me crazy, but
The last thing I need is someone else telling me what to do.

Freedom and all that........

 

[airbiscuit]

You've already taken the first step - self awareness. Life Coach couldn't hurt. Therapist couldn't hurt. I've also heard people say you should have your own Board of Directors. I didn't have that exactly, but I did have friends in high level positions in different enterprises. We trusted each other completely and bounced our ideas, aspirations, doubts off each other often. It was a great help.

On a lighter note, i told my wife I wanted to be a Life Coach when I retired. She said, you would suck at that. I told her I could prove it. If Bill came to me and said he was having problems with his girlfriend, I would tell him to buy a skdsteer. I would see him later and ask how he is doing. He would say great - I absolutely love the skidsteer. I would say - What about Cheryl? He would say - Oh we broke up, but i was able to use the skidsteer trailer to help her move.

i told my wife, I wouldn't even have to advertise. People would see Bill on his skidsteer and ask - When did you decide to buy a skidsteer?, and he would say I was having relationship problems, and my Life Coach recommended it, and I woud have my next client. My wife was disgusted, but couldn't argue the logic.

 

[mikester]

So, I'm wondering if I should try a life coach for a little bit? I just need someone that can help break things down into small pieces and push me until my flame relights with a clearer path of what I want to do.

Anyone ever use a life coach or have some suggestions?

Just re-frame things for yourself. You have maybe 20 good years left, then 5 crappy health years, and then you die.

High stress, poor eating habits, unhealthy lifestyle will shorten those 20 good years.

Do you have a good relationship with your wife? Your kids? Like your current situation? Great! If not, you might want to change things.

OPTIONS:
1. Join a church and donate 10% of your annual income.
2. Hire a [life coach / psychologist / psychiatrist / other charlatan] and pay 10% of your annual income.
3. Keep on doing what you're already doing
4. Decide what you want to change and take control of your own life.

 

[Hay Dude]

I've certainly used it solve a number of non-tractor related issues over the years! Always some good input and feedback from the TBN crew on whatever question you ask.

Sounds like you are suffering from ”later-career burnout”. Repetition of the same work scenario over & over. Covid hit and people don’t realize the toll the stress of all that took on them, even if they never got it or had a mild case. It put many people in a state of shock they need years to recover from. The news media and our leaders did a terrible “mind job” on all of us.

A friend of mine suffered horrific, disfiguring injuries to his body and mind. Whenever I feel like complaining, I think about him and my troubles seem few. He actually picks me up sometimes. Not by making my troubles seem small compared to his, but by honestly relating his everyday life to others in a non-judgmental way.

Also, I turned back to God. I let the Lord back in my life many years ago and it has helped. Never really stopped believing, but took my relationship with Jesus Christ more seriously. Some people look down on religion, but it gives you a framework on how to live properly, treat others, etc.

I suffered career burnout in construction and was fortunate to be able to switch careers like jumping off one galloping horse onto another and it really helped me.
Maybe you have an idea for another career you can pursue? Maybe it’s your time to “switch horses”? Sure glad I did.

 

[CloverKnollFarms]

Sounds like you are suffering from ”later-career burnout”. Repetition of the same work scenario over & over. Covid hit and people don’t realize the toll the stress of all that took on them, even if they never got it or had a mild case. It put many people in a state of shock they need years to recover from. The news media and our leaders did a terrible “mind job” on all of us.

A friend of mine suffered horrific, disfiguring injuries to his body and mind. Whenever I feel like complaining, I think about him and my troubles seem few. He actually picks me up sometimes. Not by making my troubles seem small compared to his, but by honestly relating his everyday life to others in a non-judgmental way.

Also, I turned to God. I let the Lord back in my life many years ago and it has helped. Some people look down on religion, but it gives you a framework on how to live properly, treat others, etc.

I suffered career burnout in construction and was fortunate to be able to switch careers like jumping off one galloping horse onto another and it really helped me.
Maybe you have an idea for another career you can pursue? Maybe it’s your time to “switch horses”? Sure glad I did.

Over the past 12 months I too have been working on my relationship with Christ and it has paid real dividends. Without an eternal purpose, what is life? A vapor. It has no lasting purpose