Growing Old With Dignity

[Beltzington]

I'm sure many will take offense to this post but it needs to be said. Current medications are keeping folks alive well beyond their expiration date. What is your game plan? Hopefully it is not to expect your children to change your diapers and bath you. Adult heath care is ridiculously expensive and in-spite of your believe you are better than everyone you will likely be enrolled in Medicaid when your meager savings are exhausted. My MIL went through $500K in 8-years. So lets hear it, a heavy rock and a deep lake or you just planning on being a burden on those you claim to love? What irritates me most is believers in divine salvation are the most scared of dying. No one gets out alive, so lets hear it.

 

[grsthegreat]

Im not dignified right now. Why should i expect to be when i知 112 :cool2: I have a real nice nest egg set aside, and im retiring for the most part this year. Ill still tinker with generator service for pleasure, but im shutting down my electrical contracting company. Im keeping my license active just so i can do an occasional gen install or help a friend out if i feel like it. I have no kids, so its up to the wife and I. I don’t need social security to survive. Everything i own is paid off. No bills except food, medical and property/income tax. So far neither of us has medical issues....knock on wood.

 

[shooterdon]

My fiancé is 12 years younger than I. Think young and stay active.

I could vote for Sanders and hope the government takes care of me, but I love my freedom too much.

What will be will be

 

[Doofy]

I will not burden my children or my wife. I've had a great life and will be ready to go when called.

 

[Beltzington]

"Think young and stay active."

So you are going to live forever or die before you become incapable to care for yourself?

These are hard questions and as indicated far to easily dismissed. My FIL fell and was paralyzed at 69 years old, my father is still mobile but unable to care for himself and insistent he will not go into a nursing home. My MIL was been in a nursing home for 10+ years unable to do anything but eat and ****.

Unless you have a few million set aside and don't don't die you will be a ward of the state and you will be grateful for government assistance.

So what are your plans? Go to any nursing home and see the hundreds of people who had the same naive thoughts of it won't happen to me.

 

[drssg]

We can make all the plans we want, but nobody can predict the future. My father and mother were both independent until the final months of life. IME, nursing home care is horrible. Home health care is much better.

I think that sometimes health issues come on gradually, and we’re able to accept things that would have seemed horrible earlier. If I was 18, and I woke up one morning feeling like I do today, I probably would have been suicidal, but I’m pretty happy with my life today.

Life goes by quickly enough. I’m not going to dwell on what difficulties may (or may not) await in my final days.

 

[widefat]

I'm sure many will take offense to this post but it needs to be said. Current medications are keeping folks alive well beyond their expiration date. What is your game plan? Hopefully it is not to expect your children to change your diapers and bath you. Adult heath care is ridiculously expensive and in-spite of your believe you are better than everyone you will likely be enrolled in Medicaid when your meager savings are exhausted. My MIL went through $500K in 8-years. So lets hear it, a heavy rock and a deep lake or you just planning on being a burden on those you claim to love? What irritates me most is believers in divine salvation are the most scared of dying. No one gets out alive, so lets hear it.

I hear you. I think about this from time to time. I don't want to be a burden on my kids; I want them to live their lives without having to worry about me. I certainly don't want them to spend one dime of their money on my needs, and I don't want them to have to spend time caring for me. I also dont want one dime of our estate to go to a nursing home; I want the kids and grandkids to benefit.

Am I going to answer your question about what I am going to do? Nope.

PS - as a believer in divine salvation - I agree with you. If the eternal reward is what scripture says it is. then what in the world is there to be afraid of?

 

[Diggin It]

"Growing Old With Dignity "

Got an ever increasing dose of the first.

Never had none of the second.

It's the 'stopping with dignity' that society needs to grasp. We don't let critters suffer. Why make us suffer?

 

[Oldoak]

We can make all the plans we want, but nobody can predict the future. My father and mother were both independent until the final months of life. IME, nursing home care is horrible. Home health care is much better.

I think that sometimes health issues come on gradually, and weæ±*e able to accept things that would have seemed horrible earlier. If I was 18, and I woke up one morning feeling like I do today, I probably would have been suicidal, but I知 pretty happy with my life today.

Life goes by quickly enough. I知 not going to dwell on what difficulties may (or may not) await in my final days.

You got it!

We can only plan and control our our life to a certain extent. Plan all we want, in the end, what we had planned or hoped for is not up to us. Dwelling on it only hastens the end.

 

[RalphVa]

My mom didn't have much, but what she had lasted through several years of living in independent living and then nursing homes and still had some left over to give to each of us, with my wife managing her funds. We've a lot more; so we fully do not expect to be dependent on our daughter.

However, we're gonna try to stay in this 8.5 acre piece of heaven as long as we can before moving into something else. My wife says she plans on being carried out of here feet first.

Ralph

 

[shooterdon]

I have LTC (Long Term Care) insurance, so if I hit a bump in the road I can get care for three years. If the bump is a huge pothole, I have time to consider options. Assisted living homes are not terrible if you find a good one. My mom has been in one for 10 years.and she likes it. BTW, a great place for a man alone as the ratio is 5:1...LOL

I also have a do not resuscitate clause in my will. I will not exist as a vegetable.

To the OP....you seem depressed so be careful of that. It will affect you negatively and hasten your deterioration. I was serious in my first post about staying active and not thinking like an old person.

Like others here, I am in my little slice of heaven, even if it is only 20 acres in the middle of nowhere. I love it and do not want to leave unless I have to. I am in my late 60's and buying a new tractor that will last my lifetime. If I had low expectations, I would get a used machine...but like to "think young". My fiancé and I have talked about things. Might be able to stay here for another 10-15 years so why buy a machine that will last 25-30???

If you do not expect much from the things in life, (job, marriage, kids, friends, etc etc) you have a tendency to not get much. Health is like that too. If you smoke or chew, stop. If you drink to excess, tone it down. If you do drugs, stop. If it hurts to do something, push yourself a bit. I wind up working with pain a lot...but I work. My bottle of Naproxen has a 2016 expiry date and is half full.

Your attitude will affect you.

 

[widefat]

We have been considering a trust. Anyone have a trust?

 

[orezok]

Heck, I don't buy green bananas anymore. :laughing:

 

[JDAOWNER]

I PLAN ON LIVING FOREVER, AND SO FAR I'M DOING GREAT!!!

 

[rekees4300]

I'm sure many will take offense to this post but it needs to be said. Current medications are keeping folks alive well beyond their expiration date. What is your game plan? Hopefully it is not to expect your children to change your diapers and bath you. Adult heath care is ridiculously expensive and in-spite of your believe you are better than everyone you will likely be enrolled in Medicaid when your meager savings are exhausted. My MIL went through $500K in 8-years. So lets hear it, a heavy rock and a deep lake or you just planning on being a burden on those you claim to love? What irritates me most is believers in divine salvation are the most scared of dying. No one gets out alive, so lets hear it.

As a senior citizen I've been thinking a lot about this topic lately. At the appropriate time, I've decided to follow the not-going-to-be-a-burden route. This link may help those who also like that route but dislike pain. The vehicle is secobarbital. :zzz:

Should the terminally ill control how they die? - CBS News

 

[shooterdon]

We have been considering a trust. Anyone have a trust?

Yes. Set it up about 7 years ago. Cost about $2500.

 

[Doofy]

As a senior citizen I've been thinking a lot about this topic lately. At the appropriate time, I've decided to follow the not-going-to-be-a-burden route. This link may help those who also like that route but dislike pain. The vehicle is secobarbital. :zzz:

Should the terminally ill control how they die? - CBS News

Good article. Thanks

 

[Larry Caldwell]

Home health care is a whole lot cheaper than a nursing facility. We remodeled the master bath to be wheelchair accessible last summer, bought a power bed that is as flexible as a hospital bed, and we have an RV hookup next to the house. My plan is to stay at home and find an illegal Mexican couple to do the housework and take care of the yard, and a home health aide a couple times a week for medical stuff. A nice travel trailer with popouts, plus a couple grand a month should take care of it.