Most open center loader valves have a relief valve close to the IN port.
The back lift, the 3pt, should have nothing to do with the front valve if things are connected correctly, and in neutral.
If you use all the pump flow for the loader valve, there will be none left for the 3pt, because the cyl fluid is going to tank. Once you release the lever for the loader valve, the fluid starts back flowing to the 3pt.
With all valves in neutral, the pump fluid is flowing through all valve to tank.
If you only use the loader valve, you redirect the fluid to the work ports and the cyl's will operate, and the fluid is flowing into the cyl and out of the cyl to the tank/reservoir.
Now, if you connect things wrong, you may cause back pressure and the pump will have to work against that, and the first valve will not work correctly.
If the hyd is a closed center system, there will probably be a relief valve close to the pump, and you will have a standby pressure at the IN port of each valve.
If you install a 3000 psi hyd gage, you can use it to trouble shoot and monitor the hyd system.