Women

[walnutman]

What a great thread. Lot's of old heads like me. Makes you wonder how things will be as our generation disappears. I see so many today having kids intentionally out of wedlock. Not saying it can't work but a child is a lifelong commitment. You can't divorce your child. You can abandon them but you can't dissolve the blood.

I married a girl in 79 out of infatuation with her when I was 19. She is now what I call my starter marriage. Lasted 3 years... 5 after final divorce. She's goofy and hyper. We still talk when family gets together.. no problem there. Had one girl a year after getting married who is doing great.. married and 4 grandchildren of mine.. all doing great.

I remarried in 89 to an 18 year old... me being 26. Well she was 20 when we married.

We had a girl together. We lost her to heroin in 2011 at the age of 20, just after becoming an Airman. Was an unbelievable struggle, before and after. We thought we had her out of her crazy days. Ultimately it was up to her.

We didn't have any more kids after that and enjoyed the grandchildren.

Been married 36 years. Beat the naysayers in the beginning.

I'm retired bringing in my investments and SS and she is my "sugar momma", working from home making the bucks.

I spend it LOL

Here we were at Live Aid in Philly July 13, 1985. Not married yet... kinda our first full day together. We met at work.

 

[MossRoad]

What a great thread. Lot's of old heads like me. Makes you wonder how things will be as our generation disappears. I see so many today having kids intentionally out of wedlock. Not saying it can't work but a child is a lifelong commitment. You can't divorce your child. You can abandon them but you can't dissolve the blood.

I married a girl in 79 out of infatuation with her. She is now what I call my starter marriage. Lasted 3 years... 5 after final divorce. She's goofy and hyper. We still talk when family gets together.. no problem there. Had one girl with her who is doing great.. married and 4 grandchildren of mine.. all doing great.

I remarried in 89 to an 18 year old... me being 26. Well she was 20 when we married.

We had a girl together. We lost her to heroin in 2011 at the age of 20, just after becoming an Airman. Was an unbelievable struggle, before and after. We thought we had her out of her crazy days. Ultimately it was up to her.

We didn't have any more kids after that and enjoyed the grandchildren.

Been married 36 years. Beat the naysayers in the beginning.

I'm retired bringing in my investments and SS and she is my "sugar momma", working from home making the bucks.

I spend it LOL

Here we were at Live Aid in Philly July 13, 1985. Not married yet... kinda our first full day together. We met at work.


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I wonder how many of us have pictures like that?

I know we do.

 

[Buppies]

I have pictures downstairs somewhere would be a job to find. Downstairs is a catch all and only go down there to do laundry

 

[lilranch2001]

This thread has reminded me of two relatives of mine.
First is my former in-laws through marriage, brother-in-law and sister-in-law.
One of the first things in that family I attended was their wedding. They’ve been married for 55 years, and I always think of their marriage as a very good example of being married.

The second one is my older sister she was right above me out of 10 siblings. We were the middle children out of those 10 siblings.
I followed her through Catholic school and I don’t know how many times the nuns and the teachers asked me. “Why can’t you be more like your sister?”
She was the best person I’ve ever known.

No matter what she always had a smile on her face, she was always way smarter than the next person, but never tried to show it. She married her best friend and raised three highly intelligent children.

We lost her last year to cancer, but she still had her gorgeous smile on her face when her children and grandchildren visited no matter how much pain she was in. Her husband always at her side.

Those are the relationships I was always jealous of, and although I was, it always made me feel good to know that there are such wonderful relationships in life!

 

[ultrarunner]

Those with divorced parents that can be civil around each other are a true blessing to the kids…

 

[Dftodd]

Those with divorced parents that can be civil around each other are a true blessing to the kids…

I talk to my step kids father when I run into him.

He works for a heavy hauler that hauls for my employer every now and then. And yes, we've set up jobs together

I met him at my daughters wedding.

He was invited to my daughters gender reveal party held at our house.

He didn't come because he didn't want to cause a scene.

I ran into him at work a couple weeks later.

I told him that he would have been fine if he came to the gender reveal party.

I would have actually been really pizzed if someone started something with him there.

The day was for daughter and son in law.

I went on to explain that my parents are divorced and my dad misses out on a lot of his grandkids stuff because my mom is there. He can't get past himself.

I told him to show up the next time for his kids and grandkids and don't worry about anything else. We are there for the kids and grandkids as well.

 

[Buppies]

Great post Dftodd truer words were never spoken.

 

[part-time-Farmer-NC]

My mom and dad split when I was about 12-13 I think. Dad suffered from PTSD it was the one thing that he brought back from Nam that he never got rid of. Mom feared for her life and left, later to return and try to get the kids back, successfully with 3 of them. Much later in life after her husband died, she moved back here where the bulk of her kids lived (here).

Dad and my step mom mostly wouldn't go to family functions if my mom was going to be there. Bday parties, weddings just about anything. I recognized it was not how I wanted to be nor raise my kids to be. Despite that I loved my dad and step mom and Mom.

Dad's can teach their children a lot of things, even how NOT to be when they grow up.