Getting an annual physical at the doctors

[Sigarms]

December 21st, texted the neighbors wife asking if her husband could lend me an extra set of hands (he doesn't use a cell phone LOL). Wife mentioned he wasn't feeling well. Mentioned no problem and let me know if I could help in any way.

December 24th, stopped in on the way back from Church to visit them to make sure everything was ok. Found out my neigbor had lung cancer, stage 4.

Early morning December 31st, neighbor called to let me know her husband passed away.

Reality is he was fit as a fiddle at age 76.

Basically in less than a month when his wife kind of forced him to to the doctors because he wasn't feeling well, he is no longer here.

We took some home baked food over last night. He was blessed because he was able to stay in his house during his short time left with his family at home.

He smoked regularly.

Point being, when we get older, even if you're fit at an older age, make sure you get a physical once a year.

Guy and his wife have always been great neighbors. Kind of the neighbors where when we get together and talk, it's never a short session.

 

[WM75Guy]

Good advice. I do all my annual exams in January, PCP, Cardiology, Ophthalmology and Podiatry. Makes it easy to remember to schedule.

 

[tacticalturnip]

I'm sorry, that's rough; though, on the other hand, he didn't have a long drawn out death.

May he rest in peace, he sounds to have been a good man.

 

[Sigarms]

I'm sorry, that's rough; though, on the other hand, he didn't have a long drawn out death.

May he rest in peace, he sounds to have been a good man.

Thank you, he was a good man IMO.

His family was the most important thing in his life.

My neighbor knows me pretty well for saying what's on my mind, and I told her there is no easy way to leave this world, but being stuck in a hospital for weeks/months isn't one of those ways I'd wish on anyone.

My neighbor was given the option because he knew he didn't have much time. He chose home.

What I would not say to my neighbor is even if he was getting annual checkups and they found the cancer "in time", sometimes the cure isn't worth the hassle to get yourself a couple of more months / years for what it can put you through.

When we first moved here, a couple of years later heard an amublance which isn't normal around here. Found out that an older guy found out he had brain cancer and it wasn't good. He went out on his own terms which I can understand and he made certain the authorities would find him.

I just find it mind boggling that it was in November when he (my neighbor) came over to my house because he was wondering why we had a cement truck coming down our driveway. Invited him over to check it out and he seemed absolutely fine. When I saw him Sunday December 24th, you knew it wasn't good.

 

[EddieWalker]

Sorry to hear about your neighbor. I sometimes wonder if it's better to go quickly then to have it drag on for years of fighting, suffering and spending, only to pass away.

My wife is a nurse and she loves all thing medical. The biggest change in my life when I met her was her forcing me to go to the doctor at least once a year. I hate wasting the day doing it, but I know that she's right and it's for my own good. So far, nothing has come of it, but I'm sure that one of these years, it will be worthwhile.

When I told one of my clients that my wife was free from colon cancer, she started to cry. I thought it was because she was happy for her, which she was, but it was because her husband had died from colon cancer. He was a medical doctor that refused to go to the doctors when he felt bad. He left her very wealthy, so I guess he was good at his profession, but he just didn't like going to see a doctor.

 

[scootr]

Sorry to hear about your neighbor. I sometimes wonder if it's better to go quickly then to have it drag on for years of fighting, suffering and spending, only to pass away.

My wife is a nurse and she loves all thing medical. The biggest change in my life when I met her was her forcing me to go to the doctor at least once a year. I hate wasting the day doing it, but I know that she's right and it's for my own good. So far, nothing has come of it, but I'm sure that one of these years, it will be worthwhile.

When I told one of my clients that my wife was free from colon cancer, she started to cry. I thought it was because she was happy for her, which she was, but it was because her husband had died from colon cancer. He was a medical doctor that refused to go to the doctors when he felt bad. He left her very wealthy, so I guess he was good at his profession, but he just didn't like going to see a doctor.

Nobody likes going to see a doctor but, if you want to live long it is mandatory for most of us... sure there are exceptions. But I'm not that lucky.
Annual checkups and health monitoring are part of my life.

 

[Hay Dude]

Smoking is such an awful, difficult habit. I actually feel sorry for those gripped in the chains of addiction-of ANY kind.
Glad I never picked it up.
Sounded like a good person.

Had a neighbor that developed a very rare aggressive cancer about 10 years ago and was gone in a month, too. Some kind of abdominal or stomach cancer.

 

[ultrarunner]

2023 was kind of rough with older friends and neighbors passing.

I’m certain having you as a neighbor provided peace of mind.

Being home means the world to many and it means a person’s wishes matter.

Mom was in the hospital and miserable with the non stop blood draws turning her arms purple.

I asked her if she wanted to go home and mom as RN of 50 years said more than anything.

I said OK… tomorrow I bring you home… Doc said 7-10 days which became almost 11 weeks and in large part because she was happy to just be home… no meds and no complaints… Hospice said might have to reevaluate because she perked up so much.

I’m certain he fully appreciated the value of having you as a neighbor.

 

[Alan W.]

Sorry for the loss of your neighbor. My Great Aunt passed away on Dec 31 also from complications of stage 4 lung cancer 4 years ago.
We never know how or when we will go out. The time is approaching for all of us eventually.

 

[Too many Kubotas]

Hmm. Timely thread.

My girlfriend has been nagging me about seeing a doctor for years, and it's been about 12 since I had a check-up.

Guess it's about time to locate what's hopefully a good doctor.

 

[Sigarms]

I’m certain having you as a neighbor provided peace of mind.

Our neighbor knows we mentioned about downsizing and moving down the road.

She asked my wife how soon we were going to move because she knows our door is ALWAYS open to her and her husband to visit. My wife assured her it was going to be at least 10 years, but we plan in advance (becuase we knew one of their grand kids was looking being married, and I have no issues to giving an "inside track" to people I know).

Put a smile on my face when my wife told me that.

We came to this house in a rural setting pretty much as damn yankees living in the "south", and even though we were damn yankees, we made friends for life.

Actually this couple had NEVER been to our house ever until we bought it '(built in 1988 and we bought it in 2004) because the previous owner who built the house never invited any of his neighbors over.

People are people no matter where you live in the world.

 

[scootr]

Hmm. Timely thread.

My girlfriend has been nagging me about seeing a doctor for years, and it's been about 12 since I had a check-up.

Guess it's about time to locate what's hopefully a good doctor.

Annual checkups made me aware of issues I needed to address in BP and BS to enable a long and healthy life. Been kinda watching it for 15 yrs but now a little more serious about it as I age. Go now - any doctor is better than no doctor. Get some blood work done and be aware of your health.

 

[Sigarms]

My girlfriend has been nagging me about seeing a doctor for years, and it's been about 12 since I had a check-up.

Sounds like a woman who should be more than a girlfriend to you

A good women who actaullys cares for your health is hard to find...

 

[Too many Kubotas]

Sounds like a woman who should be more than a girlfriend to you

A good women who actaullys cares for your health is hard to find...

I know, I know. That's just one of her many good qualities.

We never have got around to get married for some reason, and it would definitely benefit me financially if we did. If I outlive her that is, but considering some of the stuff I do, that's not likely.

Dang it. Already two more things to put on the list for '24. See a doctor and get married.

 

[scootr]

I know, I know. That's just one of her many good qualities.

We never have got around to get married for some reason, and it would definitely benefit me financially if we did. If I outlive her that is, but considering some of the stuff I do, that's not likely.

Dang it. Already two more things to put on the list for '24. See a doctor and get married.

Married men live longer lives... whether they want to or not

 

[CloverKnollFarms]

Or one could say he lived a quality life without cancer treatment or the stress of a diagnosis, until almost his last day.

 

[Sigarms]

I know, I know. That's just one of her many good qualities.

We never have got around to get married for some reason, and it would definitely benefit me financially if we did. If I outlive her that is, but considering some of the stuff I do, that's not likely.

Dang it. Already two more things to put on the list for '24. See a doctor and get married.

I consider my lucky. I got married at an age where I didn't care financially if I married my girlfriend at the time "or not" because by that time, I was financially secure at age 38 or so...

I played the field pretty good for about 19 years, and when I decided to pull the trigger, when met and were married within 10 months of meeing each other (she could drive a striaght drive and he dad kind of forced her to take a gun with her moving out of state, which impressed me LOL).

That said, if I would have married my "true love" at age 18 (which I wanted to do and she didn't, and broke my heart so to speak), I know for a fact that we have been divorced by now because of the person I was when I was that age.

We all have different shoes to walk in.

That said, I'll give you this advice... if on your 3rd or 4th marriage, don't do it even if she is a good woman!

My wife was on her second marriage with me, and she had no clue what a mistake it was at age 25 or so her first time.

Funny fact is my wife is 100% better than me as a Christian, but she was divorced and she was my first marriage.

 

[Sigarms]

Or one could say he lived a quality life without cancer treatment or the stress of a diagnosis, until almost his last day.

Honestly, that's the way I look at his life.

No one is promised tomorrow.