Bird
Epic Contributor
Sorry to hear the bad news, Dennis.
Bob, I can understand "Go ahead an operate on his lung...otherwise he will die anyway" and in some cases, maybe that's the right thing. On the other hand . . . my paternal grandmother had one lung removed and they thought they got the cancer. But a year later, it returned in the other lung and she said the first surgery was hard enough that if she'd had any idea the cancer might return, she would not have had that first surgery. My dad had Alzheimers the last 5 years of his life, but before that he let everyone know that he'd rather die of the illness once than have parts removed a little at a time.
And I'm afraid I feel the same for myself.
I think no one can say whether your father-in-law would have lived longer with the surgery than he did without, but I can sure understand that you'll always wonder about it.
Louie passed away Wednesday morning at 2:00am.
My little sister and I was able to spend Thursday through his passing with him and mother.
Thanks to you guy's that offered thoughts and prayers. You guys have been most helpful for allowing me to express myself here on this forum.
I have known Louie since 1983, he married my mom in 1984. He was a great man and one of the few I never had a cross word with ( He was very particular about his tools:thumbsup
Thanks guy's. Family pouring in to take over, which is good. Mom is in good spirits, spending good time with her brothers and sisters. I think his short suffering was a blessing, considering.